Midlife Butterfly: Self-Discovery, Women Empowerment & Life Transitions

#27 Trusting the Unknown: Embracing Life's Uncertainty

• Kena Siu • Episode 27

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In this solo episode we explore our relationship with uncertainty and why embracing the unknown is essential for personal growth and freedom. Trusting life's uncertainty requires integrating body, mind, and soul while releasing our need for control. 

And that’s the point. Midlife is your time to take the wheel, even if you only see a few kilometers ahead. It's about reclaiming your power, letting go of the noise, and coming back home to your body, mind, and soul


In This Episode, You’ll Hear

  • Why everything is unknown—and why that’s where the magic lives
  • Our bodies as messengers: understanding physical pain as emotional or spiritual signals
  • A potent reminder that you are not your thoughts—you are the observer
  • Integration of body, mind and soul builds natural trust in life's uncertainties
  • The paradox of expectation + equanimity: setting the vision, then releasing the grip
  • Daily opportunities for magic when we release control and embrace curiosity


Reflection Questions

1. Where in your life are you gripping for control—and what might shift if you softened your hold?

2. What story has been playing on repeat in your mind that you now realize isn’t even yours?

3. What would shift in your day if you trusted your body and intuition to guide you?


Let this episode land in your heart, beauty. And remember: life is a rollercoaster. But you’re not here to be tossed around—you’re here to enjoy the ride, laugh, cry, feel, and fly. 🦋💫

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Kena 💜


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Kena Siu:

Midlife butterfly, a woman in the sacred in between. She's not who she once was and not quite who she's becoming yet. She's unraveling, awakening, remembering. She's navigating life transitions, divorce, loss, reinvasion, moves With a burning desire for freedom, joy and solid living. She feels the pull to rise, to fly. She is no longer afraid of her own wings.

Kena Siu:

Welcome back to the Midlife Butterfly Podcast. This is Kena, your host, and even though I have prepared a topic for this recording of this episode by the way, it's 11.11 where I am now yes, it's called Co-Influence my soul for some reason is guiding me to something different. What's going to be? I don't know. If you want to stay here with me, you're more than welcome. That will be great. Let's see what it flows, and I'm going to start by saying I was just reflecting on my own.

Kena Siu:

I was in a master class yesterday and we're talking about audacity and about uncertainty and the unknown. And then this morning I got dropped to to listen to a podcast episode of Jody Spencer and also he was talking about certainty and I was just reflecting. Reflecting about that, like how much time and effort and energy we spend in limiting beliefs and programs that most of them there have been putting onto us, you know, culture, society, parents, etc. Etc. Etc. Etc. That doesn't allow us to trust, to be open to that unknown, when the reality is everything. Everything is unknown is unknown. Go back to this week, like I had an expected visit from a friend and then we went rock climbing and we have so much fun and the conversation flew so nicely.

Kena Siu:

You know, and I guess when we are just expecting or not expecting anything no better said when we're expecting something it doesn't happen, then we get frustrated or you know, or mad about it because of that expectation that we had. But it's because we don't, even we have the expectation, we don't let it go and let it flow as the universe wants it to work, right, we try to control it. But then when we one of the things that I was listening to, joe dispensa, and one of the things that resonated a lot with me, because, to tell you the truth, I don't I better say I didn't like having expectations, and this happened because I didn't want it to get disappointed right, either by others or, at the same time, even with me, with having the expectation of something that I am responsible for it. If I don't put that expectation and if it doesn't happen, then it's okay Between quotes, because we just let it be, but at the end we didn't take that inspired action that it will actually get us to achieve that expectation and shifting it to having that expectation. What it creates? It's exactly that. It creates that inspired action because we are expecting something to happen. At the same time, what we've got to do is let it be, allow it that if it happens, it's okay, and if it doesn't happen, it's okay. Okay too, coming back to that equanimity, right. So how good are you are expecting something and release it at the same time. I mean releasing the outcome, right, and at the same time, then taking that inspire action, because that's the fun part is the journey itself. So what do you do to get there, you know, to achieve that goal, that dream, to even just check that task out of your agenda.

Kena Siu:

And I want to come back to the unknown because I don't know, for some reason now, like my body is still processing that and that's what I feel the call to speak it out, even though I don't know exactly what is going to come through. What I can tell is that we usually don't trust that unknown, that uncertainty, because our mind goes back and looks for evidence of what it has happened before. And by going there, by doing that, the only thing we are actually creating is limit within ourselves, because our mind, by trying to protect us, because it's a protective mechanism, like saying, hey, you're safe here, I know you want something else, but that isn't safe. We don't know what's going to happen and we already have this evidence. So why would you like to? To go farther, right, but it's about being able to have that awareness of well, first of all, not how the mind works a bit, and it's like what I just told you. It wants to keep us safe and, at the same time, when having that awareness, still taking the step, still taking that action that is necessary, and to tell that self doubt, that fear, that fear you know to say, yes, I hear you, I feel you and I appreciate you for trying to protect me, but we need to move forward. I really want to achieve this dream, this goal, in my life. So you are welcome to come with me, but you got to take the back seat. I'm taking the wheel in here. I'm taking the wheel and we might see just a few kilometers in front of us. In that role. We might not see much, and that's the unknown. It's going there and you're probably questioning like, yeah, but how can I trust it? Or what could happen? And you're probably questioning like, yeah, but how can I trust it? Or what it could happen? Well, the truth is we don't know what could happen, and that's the magic of it, right, but how to trust it?

Kena Siu:

Go back and check your life. At one point you didn't know how to walk and you try it and try it, and try it again until you did it. You were able to watch others doing it and at one point I guess that was also, you know, that little child motivation to say if they can do it, I can also do it. And at one point you went to school for the very first time. You didn't know what to expect, you didn't know anyone. And then you't know anyone and then you started making friends and getting beautiful knowledge. And then you met someone and then you had a boyfriend or girlfriend for a while, or for a long time, who knows. And then you finished your studies and then you needed to go and work. And then you finished your studies and then you needed to go and work. And then you find a job and it was probably great or probably not, but then you were able to shift it.

Kena Siu:

If you go back, really everything was unknown at one point. Everything and when I get to realize is the fact that the more connected I am to my body, to my mind, to my soul, like we are, these elements in these human heads body, mind and soul and the more we take care of these three elements, the more we merge them together so they can work together, the more our intuition, our senses are gonna be open to receive that unknownness that is always there, because the more we get to heal what I'm saying, merging these elements or is at the same time is it's a healing process. Right, it's about okay, it's the body. If we have pain in the body, what is it in there? Because the body itself is the subconscious mind. The body keeps the record.

Kena Siu:

So if you're having body pain somewhere, I recommend you to search what, which is the spiritual or emotional meaning, or emotional meaning of having that pain in that specific region of your body, like some of the ones that I but that I know because I have had those type of of pain is my shoulders, when I feel like a lot of stress and I feel heaviness in the shoulders. It's like what am I carrying with me that doesn't belong to me? Or, yeah, it could be my responsibility, but at the same time, I don't have to carry it. It's just having that awareness and then acting on it. Right then the knees. It's about surrendering. So what do you have to surrender to? What is it or what is it that is causing you that pain that you are afraid to move forward in whatever dream or goal that you have in your life?

Kena Siu:

The body is very, very wise and is always speaking to you. So be aware of it, because at one point, if you don't listen, it's when it's going to start crying and when we get to a point of having pain chronic pain, not fun, not fun, not fun. I actually, uh yeah, in the past months, I was having a pain in my sciatica, for it was several months and I did have. Uh well, why I was. I went in deep into knowing what that wanted to tell me and then, at the same time, I had a healing session with my pod sisters. That also helped a lot. I still have a bit of pain, but most of it has really like fade away.

Kena Siu:

So be aware of your body, calm down to your body, if I can say that, because we live in our minds, we live in our head and that worst thing is that we believe what our head is telling us. Right? So it's about coming back to the body to notice what the body needs from foods, movement, emotional expression, whatever it is that is there, allow it, simply allow it, welcome it, because the truth is it wants to tell you something so you can ask it what are you trying to tell me? Why do I have this pain? Why I feel like this? What is this emotion trying to tell me? What I feel like this? What is this emotion trying to tell me? And sometimes you might figure it out and sometimes you might not, but it's just having that awareness and talking to your body and because it's there for you, it's always there for you. It's this beautiful avatar that you have to live, this amazing human experience. So love it. It doesn't matter the shape, the size, the color, nothing. Nothing is your avatar. Love it, respect it, listen to it.

Kena Siu:

And coming back to the mind is, again, we believe what our mind is telling us, but when you take a moment of stillness, like right now that you're listening to me, you're probably noticing some thoughts passing by, because if you are in this stillness, you're going to notice that you are the observer of your mind. How can you explain to listen to that thought or to that belief if you are not observing right? You are the observer, and when we get to understand that and I want you to I love this, oh, bicycle, well, anyway, the fact that you can picture yourself as the sky and then seeing your dots as clouds, clouds that are just passing by. The problem is, when we cling to those dots, when we repeat them and repeat them, that they become beliefs and then we get stuck in there. That's what happens. So when you just start observing your thoughts and say, oh, there he goes, that dot. Oh, oh, my god, that's that's programming for the collective. Yeah, I supposed to look that way. I don't think so. Oh, I'm not enough. Oh, shoot, that's the voice of I don't know my dad. Oh, I supposed to be doing more. Oh, yeah, my teachers. And my boss also says that. You know, it's about having that awareness and starting noticing what is in your mind. That is not serving you, because it's really coming from someone else, if you're going to take something from someone else, let it be something that nurtures and supports your mindset, and not the other way around. It doesn't make sense.

Kena Siu:

And being aware of what we consume, what kind of music? What? Which are the lyrics of the music that you are listening to? The media, oh, my god. Where I lived, um, so my apartment, through the bedroom on the back, there is a parking lot and then there's another building. The TV in that house is huge. I can literally see what they are watching from my window. The TV is on all the time. We need moments of silence. We need moments of silence. We need moments of stillness. We require that. That's why we feel overwhelmed a lot of times, because it's just information, information, information, information at all times. So the news most of them, they're not good news. We know that. What kind of brainwashing they are giving you from there. Also, social media what are you really consuming there? Are you watching? I don't know whatever profiles that? What brings you is envy and frustration and comparison. What's the point? You can actually curate what you are consuming by then seeing things that are going to nurture you and support you in your mental health, in your well-being. You choose, you choose.

Kena Siu:

And it's the same with our thoughts. Well, first of all, we get. We have between six, sixty thousand and eighty thousand thoughts per day. I was doing a calculation one day, like if we sleep eight hours. So basically what is left? We are having a dot every second, every second, and the worst thing is most of those dots are repeating dots from the previous day and most of them are negative. How fucked up is that? That's why it is so important to be aware of our mind. Which are each cloud that is passing by, what the heck is saying? And the thing is at one point when you start recognizing them and making them conscious because that's the issue. Most of those thoughts are unconscious. They are there but we are not aware of them, and that's why we feel blue during the day.

Kena Siu:

Then, I don't know, some people might get into depression as well, because they are not aware of what's happening in your mind. It's not? I'm not saying that that's wrong. No, it's about bringing that awareness to what we are thinking and not allowed the autopilot drive our lives. I mean, then we complain that we blame others for what's happening to us, and then our boss, and then our parents, and then our siblings, and then our friends, and then it's everyone's fault, but ours, when the truth is, it's our responsibility to take our power back for our lives, for what we want to think and believe and the new patterns that we can actually create to live better lives. I am a fucking witness of that that we can change our life for good, and that's why I'm here.

Kena Siu:

I used to be the victim for such a long time until I guess I just freaking, got tired of it. It's very comfortable to be there, you know, just to, yeah, to blame others for whatever is happening, when the reality is this life is happening for you, not to you. And when we get to understand that and when we get and choose to take that responsibility of saying, yes, this is happening to me, for me, not to me anymore, for me, what is it here that I get to learn? What is it here that I get to choose to feel better, to create a different reality, even if it's a little little bit better that that what I am in this moment? This moment, because life is a roller coaster. There could be many happy moments and stuff, and then we fall down into a lot of grief because we lost people, because relationships break, because we lost our jobs, you know, and that's life itself.

Kena Siu:

And the more you get to have that good relationship with your mind, the more you get to choose every time how which you are, your thoughts, then the better your emotions are gonna be, even though sometimes it's upside down. First comes the emotion and then you know, is it that they are very intertwined. But my point is, the more you get to master your mind, that better you're gonna be at creating your life. I've done it, I keep doing it and I keep witnessing other people doing the same. The more they are able to control their mindset, the better they create their lives. And that is also something that you get to choose in your life. And yeah, I mean, if you need some guidance, I'll be happy to guide you to go through that process. It's so beautiful. It's so beautiful to start noticing which are you know, your beliefs, your patterns, your programs, your behaviors, and then start noticing that a lot of them they don't serve you anymore and that a lot of them they don't even belong to you. You know, it's generational. And then how you get to unlearn, to learn so many good things and the magic that you can create by choosing to nurture your mind at any level.

Kena Siu:

What happened to me is that when I moved to Montreal in Canada is when I started doing yoga, and so, after several years, it's when, finally, my mind and body connected. They were totally disconnected and it's when my body starts saying, okay, you're doing exercise, you're kind of like you know, getting into this, you know spiritual realm, whatever and the mind as well is like we need to change our eating habits. That's what really happened. And then I started you know, green juices and smoothies and eating more plant-based foods, and all that, and the better care I had for my body and the better care I had to my mind, that's how I was able to connect to my soul, to connect to source, to the divine, to God, whatever you want to call it. I knew it was there. I knew it was there.

Kena Siu:

The thing is well, I was raised Catholic and I used to go to the church Well, mainly because, yeah, my mom will ask us to go, but it never really clicked for me. It didn't Until I did the yoga professional training for a year that they speak, of course, about the science of yoga, and then we meditated as well and getting to connect more to the body and understanding the mind and all those teachings. It is until then, because the universal God, universal consciousness based on love. Contrary to many religions, or at least Catholic, it is how I was raised the first thing that they told you is that you are a sin and you have to blame yourself for whatever that. For me it just doesn't make sense. And then you need to go talk to another human to have access to God Like really Fuck no. Access to God, like really fuck no. We can get that connection directly with him, with her. It is there at all times. So, whatever it is, that is your religion, your you know that you believe in.

Kena Siu:

If it's love that exists, then I will question it. That's what I'm going to say. I will question it Because at any moment we can come here home, home to our body, home to that source, energy, god, universe that is always there, holding us, always Unconditionally, unconditionally it is just up to you to choose to go that and the more connected we can get to that energy of love, of unconditional. I hate using unconditional love. I guess I still use it because I mean, it's been the program for 40-something years, because now I understand that there's no such a thing as an unconditional love. It's love. That said that all, because if it's conditioned it's not love. That's what I mean and yeah, so, yeah.

Kena Siu:

So I'm trying to come back to the thread of what I get into the body, mind and soul, of these three elements of our humaneness. Yeah, it is because the more in harmony, the more nurturing and the more trust, the more trust you are going to have in that unknown that is always there. Are you getting it? Are you getting it? Because if I know something is unknown, but if I know I'm supporting my body with good foods, with exercise, with movement, then let's say, if I want to be able to be a healthy 85-year-old woman, if I know I am supporting my body, if I know that I am feeding my mind with beautiful things and choosing a positive mindset and choosing to yet to go through life and being equanimous and choosing peace, even when there are breakdowns, and all that, if I know I have that support of of God, of the universe, of the divine at all times, how come I'm not gonna trust if I know my body is in, I know my mind is, it is in, and I know the divine is always there for me. We are integral beings.

Kena Siu:

If we don't take care of these three elements body, mind and soul I don't think we can be in alignment. And I have experienced it because when something happens I don't know, let's say, when I was having a lot of pain because of my sciatica, I really needed I mean it was taking so much energy and fear at the same time, you know, because it was like, oh, I don't want to do that movement because of the fear of having the freaking pain. So it's really. I mean I needed to go and look at my body and say, okay, what is it there? What do you want to tell me? What kind of exercise can I do? Or movement so we can start sooting this pain? I am not rejecting it, I know you are here. You want to tell me something, what can I do? And, of course, the healthier I'm getting now, I mean the more aligned I feel.

Kena Siu:

And life is wobbly. Well, I use better I love saying more the roller coaster, because as you can go a little, you know a little up and then a little down, sometimes you can go a little up and then you go freaking down the way and the speed is like fucking taking you, then it can get. You know, scare the shit out of you, the shit out of you. But when we know we have that support, that trust in our body to support that emotional charge, you know it's. We can trust more. We can, yeah, we can trust more. We can, yeah, because it takes the same effort to trust and not trust, isn't it? So why would I choose something that doesn't serve me? Wow.

Kena Siu:

So all this to tell you that I have taken the decision to trust the unknown, because everything is unknown. How far a dodgy cut for a dodgy call. Well, it is a paradox. That's what I mean. It is everything is unknown. What I can do is put the expectation of what I want to achieve, put that intention in there and by doing, by doing so, then take the inspire action Forward towards the goals and dreams and enjoy the journey. That's what we are here for. We may have a dream of a house, of a partner, of retirement, whatever, but it's about enjoying that journey. Because what about if, then, we die before? That's for certain, we are going to die.

Kena Siu:

So what about just taking it easy? Not taking life so seriously? At the end is a game. How do you want to enjoy playing that game. Enjoy playing that game of that unknown that is surrounding us at all time and by approaching it with a cheerful energy, with positivism, or at peace, you know, with harmony, then, or at peace, you know, with harmony then we feel open and ready to receive the magic and the miracles that life and the divine wants to offer you. The divine wants to offer you, because what about if each day there's something magical? What about if each day there's something new that you get to learn? What about if you know every day you learn a new word? What about if every day, then, you discover something new in your path of going to work? What about if each day you get to encounter a new person and you share words or a simple smile? What about, what about if the unknown is showing us all that and we're just taking it for granted or we're trying to control it? And that's when we fucked it up. So, yeah, allow your life to flow with ease and peace and that curiosity that it will create that magic and miracles to appear into your day-to-day. And this is it for today.

Kena Siu:

Thank you for joining me in Midlife Butterfly and this. Wow. Whatever I just shared, I cannot remember most of it, and that's the beauty of it. I want to invite you to Clarity, which is a three-day event that I'm offering from July 22nd to 24th At 3 pm Eastern Time, and it's to help you If you feel stuck, if you feel you feel like you know in a foggy place at this moment, if you're in a life transition and you don't know how to move forward.

Kena Siu:

So we're basically going to be talking about who am I, what do I want, and then how can you start taking action to move forward. And just a reminder that you are not lost. There's nothing to fix. It's about this journey that is taking you to places, that is giving you the opportunity to grow and evolve as a beautiful human being, and we're just, you know, getting back to that clarity so you can remember truly who you are. That's what it is. Who you are, that's what it is. I send you lots of love, wishing you a miraculous day and lots of kisses. Take care.

Kena Siu:

Thank you for tuning into Midlife Butterfly. If this episode lead a spark in you, hit that subscribe or follow button on Apple Podcasts, spotify or wherever you love to listen, so you'll never miss the magic. If you're feeling generous drop a review on Apple Podcasts. It helps this empowering content reach more souls ready to transform their lives. And don't forget to take a photo of you while listening and share it on your socials. You can tag me at Ken as you, so I can celebrate you and your expansion. Until next time, keep spreading those wings and living in joy, growth and pleasure.

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