Midlife Butterfly: Stop Self-Abandoning & People Pleasing by Healing Your Nervous System — Feel Alive Again
Midlife Butterfly is a podcast for high-achieving midlife women who are tired of abandoning themselves just to hold everything else together. Hosted by Kena Siu, Identity & Embodiment Guide, this podcast explores emotional truth, nervous system healing, self-remembrance, feminine aliveness, and what it really means to come home to yourself after years of over-functioning, caregiving, people-pleasing, and survival mode.
If you've been feeling emotionally exhausted, disconnected from yourself, overwhelmed by everyone else's needs, or unsure who you are beyond your roles and responsibilities — you are not alone.
Each episode meets you where you are — in the exhaustion, the confusion, the quiet longing — and gently guides you back to yourself through nervous system awareness, embodied reflection, and deeply honest conversation.
This is a space for women navigating midlife awakening, emotional burnout, identity shifts, relationship patterns, self-worth, feminine healing, and the quiet longing to finally feel alive again.
You don't need to become someone new. You just need to remember who you truly are.
🔗 Connect with Kena:
🦋 Instagram: @midlifebutterfly
🌐 Website: midlifebutterfly.ca
Much love 💜, Kena Siu
Episodes
76 episodes
#75 - How Much Longer Are You Willing to Wait? Breaking the Comfort Zone in Midlife
Is there a friend you keep meaning to call — and you haven't?Is there a life you keep meaning to start living — and you're still waiting?This is one of those episodes that came from real life, raw and unfiltered. This week, Kena l...
#74 - From Functioning to Feeling: How to Reclaim Your Aliveness in Midlife
Are you moving through your days efficiently — but feeling strangely empty inside? What if the life you've built looks fine from the outside, but something underneath has gone quiet?This episode is an invitation to stop, feel, and ask th...
#73 - Reconnecting with Pleasure in Midlife: Intimacy, Shame & the Path to Feminine Aliveness with Trina Read
Have you ever felt completely disconnected from your own body — like pleasure was something that happened to other women, not you?What if the shame you carry around sex isn't a personal failing — but a pattern you were never...
#72 - The Slow Fade: How People-Pleasing Steals Your Identity
You didn't lose yourself all at once. It happened one small yes at a time.In this episode, we trace it back — to the exact moment the slow fade begins, and why most women can't pinpoint when they stopped being themselves.People-pl...
#71 - Why High-Achieving Women Feel Exhausted from Self-Abandonment
Many high-achieving women think they’re exhausted because they’re doing too much. But beneath the over-functioning, caregiving, people-pleasing, and constant responsibility, there’s often something deeper happening: self-abandonment.In t...
#70 - The Real Reason You Reach for Food — And What Your Body Knows
Have you ever finished eating something and immediately felt worse — not from the food, but from the story you told yourself about it?What if there was nothing wrong with you — and the only thing missing was understanding ho...
#69 - Beyond the Checklist: What Midlife Is Really Asking of You
You've spent decades being everything for everyone. And somewhere along the way, you stopped recognizing yourself.In this second session of A Doorway To Home, we go deeper into why midlife doesn't have to feel like a crisis — an...
#68 - The 3 main armours to break, to feel at Home in your body.
Something feels off… and no matter how much inner work you’ve done, you still find yourself going back to the same patterns.This episode is a deep, grounded conversation on what it really means to come back home to yourself — no...
#67 - Release What Holds You Back To Travel & Tips to Head to Your New Destination
What if the trip you keep postponing is actually a doorway back to yourself?In this deeply honest conversation, Kena sits with travel coach Maria Kamau to explore how travel in midlife becomes more than movement—it becomes a reclamation....
#66 - Bridge The Gap Between Mind And Body
You’ve done the inner work — therapy, coaching, books, podcasts… so why do you still feel stuck in the same patterns?This is the missing piece of midlife healing, self-trust, and reinvention that no one talks about: your body.In t...
#65 - What’s Truly Happening In Your Body During Midlife with Dr. Heather Awad
Your body is changing… and no one really prepared you for this. The things that used to work don’t work anymore. The control, the routines, the way you’ve always managed yourself… suddenly feel off. And underneath that frustration, ...
#64 - Sitting With Discomfort: Going Through To Move Forward With More Ease
Kena is trying something new… Reflection Bombs.Short, simple episodes to pause and sit with those little moments in life—triggers, glimmers, whatever is there.After a few days of feeling off, I realized there was discomfort ...
#63 - From Self-Abandonment To Full Remembrance with Kimber Hardick
Have you ever caught yourself telling the same story about your life — the one where you stayed too long, gave too much, and kept waiting for things to change? In Part 2 of this rich conversation, Kena and Kimber Hardick go...
#62 - Remembering Who You Are & The Truth About Emotions
Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of an old pattern — reactive, shrinking, or going silent — and thought, I thought I’d worked through this? What if the frustration isn’t a sign you’re failing — but proof that...
#61 - Building Self-Trust To Experience Real Intimacy
Ever leave a conversation thinking, “Why didn’t I say what I really felt?”That tight throat. The replay in your mind. The quiet loneliness that follows.In this episode, we explore the hidden truth most midlife women don’t...
#60 - When Success Isn’t Enough & Speaking Your Truth Frees You
You built the life. You survived the heartbreak. You carried the shame.And yet… something still feels heavy.In this powerful conversation, I sit with Candi Rose — author, speaker, single mother, and woman who transformed a past fille...
#59 - Experiencing Every Day Life Through Love
What if love isn’t something you find… but something you are?On my birthday, after a deep physical reset and days of surrendering to what my body needed, I found myself reflecting on one thing: love. Not just romantic love — but the kind...
#58 - Midlife Reinvention: A Loving Shift To Live With More Ease
When discomfort shows up, do you rush to fix it… or can you stay? In this episode, we explore the quiet power of becoming the observer — the woman who no longer lets her mind run the show. Through real-life moments and grounded reflection, you’...
#57 - 7 Ways You Stop Giving Unnecessary F*cks
Most women don’t give too many fucks because they care too much — they do it because, at some point, it kept them safe.In this episode of Midlife Butterfly, Kena Siu opens a raw, grounded conversation about what it really means ...
#56 - The Fertile Void: When Life Slows You Down on Purpose
What if the void you feel it’s guiding you to something great? If you’re in a season where you’re not moving forward, but you’re not moving backward either… this episode is for you.In this deeply grounding conversation, Kena ...
#55 - You Are Not Behind, Nor Stuck; You Are Living In Cycles
What if you’re not stuck… you’re simply in Winter?In this episode, Kena invites you to slow down and remember something your body already knows: you are cyclical by nature. If midlife has you feeling quieter, foggier, or out of ...
#54 - Reclaim Your Voice: Become Sovereign in Truth and Body
What if the healing you’ve been searching for isn’t something you need to find… but something you need to express?In this intimate conversation, Kena sits down with voice liberation coach and sound healer Skylar Temple Singer to explore ...
#53 - Are You A Perfectionist? Know What’s Behind Holding You Back
Perfectionism is often praised, but what if it’s hidden fear?In this episode of Midlife Butterfly, Kena shares a raw reflection on perfectionism as a survival response rooted in the fear of rejection, judgment, and not belonging...
#52 - How to avoid pushy resolutions to live in gratitude and intention
What if gratitude wasn’t about pretending this year was fine and intentions weren’t another thing to get right?As the year comes to a close, many women feel an invisible weight: to be grateful, to celebrate, to set resolutions… even when...
#51 - Releasing Shame To Reclaim Your True Self
Shame doesn’t always scream. Sometimes it lives quietly in your body. In the moments you dim yourself, stay silent, or question your worth.In this episode of Midlife Butterfly, I’m sharing a powerful and honest conversation from...