Midlife Butterfly: Self-Discovery, Women Empowerment & Life Transitions
Midlife isn’t just a phase—it’s a powerful catalyst for transformation. Whether you’re navigating divorce, an identity crisis, a breakup, feeling lost, a spiritual awakening, empty nest syndrome, moving to a new city or country, or grief—this chapter of life is calling you to heal, grow, and reinvent yourself.
I’m Kena Siu, your host and Self-Love & Empowerment Guide, and I’m here to help you embrace midlife as a time of expansion, self-discovery, and joy.
Join me and my guests as we share personal stories, mindset shifts, self-care practices, and spiritual tools to support you on your journey. Midlife is not the end—it’s a new beginning. It’s time to prioritize yourself, reclaim your power, and create life on your own terms.
Follow and listen for inspiration, healing, and practical steps to transform your life from simply surviving to fully thriving.
You are the creator of your life. Let’s co-create together so you can spread your wings and fly.
Much love 💜,
Kena Siu
Midlife Butterfly: Self-Discovery, Women Empowerment & Life Transitions
#33 - Living the Sacred Journey: Reclaiming Joy, Presence, and Soul Connection
What if midlife wasn’t a crisis—but an awakening?
In this soulful episode of Midlife Butterfly Podcast, Kena explores the sacred in-between—the ordinary yet powerful moments where life invites us to reclaim joy, presence, and deep soul connection. She shares her own raw reflections on vulnerability, triggers, and the freedom that comes when we stop trying to control life and start creating it with awareness.
This conversation is for midlife women navigating divorce, empty nest, grief, or reinvention—women ready to stop living on autopilot and start honouring their truth.
🦋 In this episode, you’ll discover:
- Why life itself is the sacred journey—and how to embrace it fully
- The surprising gift of vulnerability as a source of strength
- How triggers can become your greatest teachers in midlife
- The key shift from control to creation that changes everything
If you’re ready to rediscover yourself, reclaim your worth, and live fully aligned, this one’s for you.
🦋 Soulful Reflection Questions
- Where in your life are you trying to control instead of allowing yourself to be present?
- What parts of yourself—light or shadow—are asking for acceptance right now?
- Who in your life mirrors something for you to grow from, and how can you see it as a gift?
Go and make the best of your life, because you are worthy, because you deserve it. Reach out if you want to have a conversation about creating your sacred life. I'm offering in my 1:1 coaching services a 20% discount on my Beautiful Butterfly Path and Truth Seeker programs right now.
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Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada
Midlife Butterfly, a woman in the sacred in between. She's not who she once was and not quite who she's becoming yet. She's unraveling, awakening, remembering. She's navigating life transitions, divorce, loss, reinvasion, moves with a burning desire for freedom, joy and solid living. She feels the pull to rise, to fly. She's no longer afraid of her own wings.
Kena Siu:Hey, beauty, welcome back to the Midlife Butterfly Podcast. This is Kena, your host, and I got a question about what does it mean, the sacred in between? Because, well, the trailer, no sorry, the intro of this podcast actually talks about the sacred in between. I'm going to be interviewed at a podcast this afternoon evening and this is one of the questions that they're going to ask me, and I was reflecting about it and the sacred in between. So what is it for me? Is it for me?
Kena Siu:But first of all, life, it's sacred itself. Being alive, having this spiritual experience in a human body, is such a privilege and honor for me. I hope for you as well, because being alive, I mean. What else can we ask for Life, with everything that is in it? And as we look around, yeah, there is chaos, there is a lot of things happening and we can call ourselves sometimes more privileged than other people. At the same time, I do believe that our souls, which never die it, comes here to experience different things and we choose a body, we choose a vessel and at the same time, we did choose where to live, where to experience life. Either we might get to understand it or not, because, anyway, every time we drop an ear in a different vessel, we're just completely blank. We forgot the experiences that we have in the previous life. So, yeah, that's my take on that. So, being sacred because we are soul, experiencing our humanness in here and in between, because life is a journey, because life is a journey, we are always going through something, even when we have plans and goals and dreams. Life happens while we want to achieve all those things. And as human beings, I do believe that we are here to grow and evolve. So that sacred in between is really experiencing life itself While you are growing and evolving.
Kena Siu:Otherwise, like, what are we doing here? We're just surviving, or we are just trying to control things, or we are just living in autopilot. I used to live like that and it literally sucks. It does I mean? Then we feel stuck and then we feel frustrated and then we are worried about whatever happened in the past, and then we are anxious about the future, when the truth is, everything is happening in this present moment, and it's only in the present moment where we can actually enjoy the journey. It's only in the present moment that we can learn about ourselves. It's only in the present moment that we can appreciate whatever is happening around us. It's only in the present moment that we can experience our emotions, either if we call them between codes, negative or positive. So, yeah, this journey is just so fascinating I choose to see it that way.
Kena Siu:Now. It has been a fucking process. It has been a journey of a lot of ups and downs and I'm so proud of it. I'm so fucking proud of my journey to tell you the truth, and speaking my truth has been one of those, one of those things that I'm very proud of it. And and having this podcast has pushing me to create this opportunity to speak my truth and be vulnerable and joke about it and talk about my insides or outsides, about life and how I am experiencing it, because what I've noticed is, by speaking my truth, I have given the opportunity to others to reflect about their lives, to have aha moments and saying, oh okay, we're also going through similar things, or to say, yeah, I can relate to that and thank you because that helps me to get more at peace with myself and those are such beautiful gifts. You know, just by speaking my truth, just by saying what's happening with me, what I have experienced with pain and sorrow and grief and joy and adventures and decisions that I have taken on life, that inspires others right and help them process also their own stuff.
Kena Siu:I've noticed the importance of being vulnerable. I used to have, and probably you have it now. I don't know that vulnerability was a weakness and what I have come to experience in the past I don't know years is vulnerability is so fucking powerful truth when you get to share what is inside of you and your voice breaks and then you're swearing and then the emotions are just coming through and tears of sometimes, and excitement. It's so fucking powerful and, at the same time, something that I got to experience this weekend when I went to a festival called Conexión Ecstatic Ecstatic Connection and just by being present with another person and looking at their eyes without saying anything, you can also there, be vulnerable. You don't have to say a word because in that present moment when you are staring at the eyes of someone else, everything drops the vessel. You know, the body doesn't matter, the labels, the roles, everything that we think we are, you know our identity. It just fades away just by being present and being seen by the eyes of another person.
Kena Siu:I have several encounters with different beautiful women and just by looking at each other we were crying and just by talking to you now I am having some tears in my eyes because it was so powerful, it was so beautiful. My eyes because it was so powerful, it was so beautiful. Yes, we did exchange some words at the end and at one point with this lady, because just the night before where we were doing ecstatic dance, we got to connect and just dance and, you know, interchange, movement and sight and the energy and everything. And then the next day I got to see her at a workshop of biodanza and at the end, well, kind of almost at the end, part of of this, um, we just, we just connected again and so we had the option to just, you know, look at the other person or give them the beautiful ecstatic hug. It was so wonderful, it was so wonderful to experience the presence of that other being and the warmness, close to my chest and my belly, with such strength and love, because at the end, it was just two souls connecting, recognizing each other. Just two souls connecting, recognizing each other. And when we finally were separating apart from the hug, I couldn't help it and I told her I love you. I really felt it. It was so beautiful.
Kena Siu:Having that opportunity to be seen and heard, mostly with our senses instead of words, is just so, so magical. It is wonderful. So, if you have the chance to experience something like this, please do. Don't be afraid. Don't be afraid of what the soul really is. And that's why I love midlife butterfly, because I love empowering women to to come back, to connect to their souls. You know, getting to know who you are, with no labels, with no hats, with no roles, getting to know who you are truly and getting to love yourself truly and fully. It's such a game changer for how you behave with yourself, first of all, the relationship with yourself and, by default, how you can actually change the relationship with others by learning to love yourself at that level.
Kena Siu:At that level and because you can love yourself at this level and I mean it comes down to all that acceptance and understanding and loving your shadow and loving your light. And when you get to the level is when you, I do believe you, can really then allow others to see you, to really see you. Otherwise, if we don't accept who we really are and keep hiding and being, you know, unpleasing and I don't know all these mechanisms that we use to protect ourselves right, to protect our heart, to protect our mind, to protect our pleasure and sex and sex, when we get to open to that and love it, the way it soul, experience your soul, touch your soul, ah, it's so beautiful, it is, it is, it is and this is part of the that sacred in between again, is it's the human experience in this life, while connecting to other souls at different levels, because it's each of us. We're're going through different journeys and it is not about comparing to others. I think it's more about when we see others. It's about how that other person can inspire us, because sometimes, when we feel envy and I think it's normal, you know to feel it is part of our humanness it's really observing and saying, okay, I feel envy for this person. So what is it that this person has? Or is that I'm craving for it? That I'm craving for it, or probably, on the contrary, something like, okay, that is something that I don't want anymore in my life. Right, it's always this kind of like duality, so being and having that kind of awareness to say, okay, so, this person is showing me something. Okay, so this person is showing me something, so what is it that I can take? You need to learn and to grow, because through these relationships are our biggest teachers, aren't we? I mean, we can spend a long time all we want and do inner work and work in ourselves, but the true work comes when we get to experience it with other people, because it's again when we get inspired or when we get triggered. Isn't it so fun when we get triggered?
Kena Siu:I mean, I choose to see it that way now, because when someone triggers me, it's just a reflection of something that I get to work on myself, and so I always like digging in. It's like, okay, this person is triggering me. What does it mean? What is that reflection? What is it? You know, this person is my mirror. So what I mean? What? What is it reflecting in me? That there's something that I get to work on it? Is it more patience? Is it more love? Is it more understanding. Is it still my wound of rejection? Is it still like something that I used to be and I seriously don't want to come back to that part of myself anymore because I know it's not serving me. So I love triggers to tell you the truth, because it's how I can keep growing. So my invitation to you is to yeah, to see triggers that way. It's an invitation to work in something in yourself, to get to know more yourself. And when you get to know more about yourself, more yourself and when you get to know more about yourself, either if you see it as a positive or negative, between quotes it's just about understanding more of who you are, of who you are, and sometimes, even when you cannot understand it, it's about accepting it, simply accepting it.
Kena Siu:We get too much in our heads trying to understand and make sense of things, when the truth is that's the mind trying to figure it out. When we get to drop into our bodies, the body is saying something totally different. The body doesn't give a shit about what your mind is trying to figure out. If you're just feeling it, if you are just there, very, very present, you know. It's just coming back to the connection that I have with these ladies just by looking at their eyes.
Kena Siu:I didn't need my mind, I just needed to feel all those sensations and emotions in my body. That's all I needed. I mean, I didn't require anything else. My body who felt the sadness, the joy, the presence, the love, the pleasure, the. I mean those are the emotions that I can remember now, but I mean, as you probably might know, there's so many emotions that we don't even need to label. Why do we have to fucking label everything?
Kena Siu:Yeah, so, yeah, it's just dropping in and connecting back to the body more, instead of trying to figure out what the mind wants to say. It's just Just drop it. Yeah, that's what I can tell you. Just fucking drop it. I mean, how many times do you feel overwhelmed or you are overthinking? I used to overthink most of my life and it was so fucking tiring because most of the time, just the overthinking is about trying to control. Control what the exterior? The only thing that I get to control now is my mind. The only thing that I get to control now is my mind. That's the only conclusion that I have gotten into these past 10 years and most of the last five or six, I mean, if you really get to reflect about it, how much control you have.
Kena Siu:Yeah, leaving this silence for you to think about it, because the truth is you cannot control most of the things. You cannot control other people, I mean, in a way, you can probably manipulate them, but for how long? For what benefit? You cannot control the weather. You cannot control your employer if at one time decides to let you go. You cannot control all your devices or whatever is in your house that it can break. You cannot control a plant that eventually the life is coming to an end the same with a pet coming to an end, the same with a pet.
Kena Siu:If you reflect about it, you cannot control most of the things. What you get to control is your mind, and it is such a gift when you get to learn that, oh my god. It is such a gift because then you stop living in autopilot and you start creating the life that you want, the life that you deserve, because once you understand that you can control your thoughts and, by default, your emotions and vice versa, because everything is intertwined, of course then you get to choose, and by having the awareness because the only way to control your mind is having an awareness. And by having that awareness then you get to choose better, better and better, because at the beginning probably those choices that you have are not the best that you would like to, but at least you do have a choice and then you get to choose whatever works best for you at that very moment. And I'm saying that very moment, in that very moment. And I'm saying that very moment, or this very moment, because this very moment is the only thing we have, because even when you are in control of your mind, you cannot control the future. You can only be here in the now, experiencing here in the now, and from here you take decisions. From here you choose how you want to experience life, because you are the creator. That's the truth. I mean, we are here because of God. You know God, universe source. Yes, we are an extension of God. The thing is, god also gives us free will. Yes, so we might be guided all the time, and it's up to us if we want to be guided and follow. And with that free will, it comes your responsibility to create the sacred life that you want. God is the guide, but don't let it say it's just up to you In a way, yes, but, at the same time, you are responsible for your life. You are the one living it. You are the one living it. So what are you doing with it? Are you still surviving? Are you driving? Are you really creating a life? That you are enjoying, a life of connection, connection with others, connection with nature, connection with yourself, connection with nature, connection with yourself, with your being, with your soul? Yeah, so that's my invitation. That's my invitation for you today to take the time to go within, to check with your body, with your heart. What is it in there that you would like to experience? What is it in there that you want to create in this sacred life that you have the privilege and the honor to live, and the honor to live? And this is a response from your heart, from your soul. This is not a response from the head, because the head is going to go to yeah, the relationship. Oh yeah, my kids. Oh yeah, the job. Oh yeah, my business. Oh yeah, my kids. Oh yeah, the job. Oh yeah, my business. It's not about that. It's about your truth. It's about your truth. So go journal about it, go dance about it, go have a walk about it, go have a conversation with someone I don't know. And if you want to reach out, I would be more than happy to have a conversation about this with someone I don't know. And if you want to reach out, I would be more than happy to have a conversation about this with you, because life is so fucking magnificent and beautiful and so worth living. So worth living. Yes, that's what life is. So, thank you so much for listening today, thank you for your time, thank you for your energy, thank you for being here. I know life it's busy and having you here, seriously, it means a lot to me. So, yeah, reach out and I'm offering a couple of. I have two programs on one-on-one coaching. I'm gonna put it in the in the notes down here. And, yeah, because I am offering 20% discount at this moment in the beautiful butterfly path and the truth seeker program. So that's it for today. Go and make the best of your life, because you are worthy, because you deserve it, because I love you and I want the best for you. Much love to you, as usual, and take care. Thank you for tuning into Midlife Butterfly. If this episode lit a spark in you, hit that subscribe or follow button on Apple Podcasts, spotify or wherever you love to listen, so you'll never miss the magic. If you're feeling generous, drop a review on Apple Podcasts. It helps this empowering content reach more souls ready to transform their lives. And don't forget to take a photo of you while listening and share it on your socials. You can tag me at Ken as you, so I can celebrate you and your expansion. Until next time, keep spreading those wings and living in joy, growth and pleasure.
