#35 - Are You Upleveling? 5 Uncomfortable Signs You’re Actually Evolving

Midlife awakening isn’t always glamorous — sometimes it feels exhausting, emotional, and downright uncomfortable. But what if those very symptoms are proof that you’re upleveling into your next chapter?

In this episode of Midlife Butterfly, I share 5 uncomfortable signs that you’re actually evolving: from unexpected tiredness and hunger, to emotional rollercoasters. These are invitations to slow down, listen, and trust the transformation happening within you.

If you’ve been wondering why you feel so out of sync, this conversation will help you see your experiences differently: not as flaws to fix, but as evidence that your soul is expanding.

🦋 In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

• Why exhaustion is often a sign of integration, not burnout
• How emotional ups and downs are clearing the way for growth
• The body’s surprising role in midlife transformation
• How to recognize when your system is upgrading
• Practices to support yourself through an uplevel

This is your reminder: you’re not falling apart — you’re becoming more of who you truly are.

Soulful Reflection Questions

1. Which of these signs of upleveling are you currently experiencing in your own life? -> If you're experiencing something else, I'm curious to know, please DM me @midlifebutterfly
2. How can you honour your body and emotions instead of judging them during this transition?
3. What part of your old self are you ready to thank, grieve, and release as you step into your new wings?

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Chapters

• 0:00 Midlife Butterfly Introduction
• 0:45 Five Signs of Up-Leveling
• 2:51 Tiredness and Increased Hunger
• 4:43 Resistance to Learning
• 6:28 Emotional Roller Coaster
• 9:35 Physical Pain and Moving Forward
• 13:30 Coaching Services and Closing

Transcript

Kena Siu: 0:00

Midlife isn't a breakdown, it's an awakening. And when you are going to an up-level, it doesn't always look pretty. Sometimes it feels messy, emotional and, yes, very, very tiring. Midlife Butterfly a woman in the sacred in-between. She's not who she once was and not quite who she's becoming yet. She's unraveling, awakening, remembering. She's navigating life transitions divorce, loss, reinvasion, moves with a burning desire for freedom, joy and solid living. She feels the pull to rise, to fly. She's no longer afraid of her own wings.

Kena Siu: 0:45

Welcome back to the Midlife Butterfly podcast. This is Ken Asu, your host, and today I want to share five signs that you are up leveling. At least are the ones that I'm going through at this very moment, and chances are that probably you are feeling something similar to me and, at the same time, thinking that something is off in your body, in your emotions or in your mind. It might actually mean that you are just right on track. So I was feeling these signs in my whole being, and then I went to my dear friend, chad G Petier and and said okay, this is what I am experiencing, this has something to do with that level that I'm processing and, yes, it just helped me to confirm that I'm going through this at-level process and it just gave me some hints about what I'm going through, so I want to share them with you, because, I mean, we're in midlife, we're in the month of September. Through this year, we've been processing things and it's the time to really like to renovate, to reinvent ourselves. We are there. The whole astrology is there. I assume if you're into astrology, you just might be getting pieces here and there and there. So, yeah, so I want to share the five core signs that I'm going through at this moment because of the up-leveling process. Up-leveling I mean going to a higher version of myself. We are human beings and such as we are here to grow and evolve, and this is one of my jams. To you know, growth and evolution is one of the best beautiful things that we are here to do, and yeah, so I just want to share with you to thiscoaster of things that I'm going through at this very moment.

Kena Siu: 2:51

So one of the signs is tiredness and exhaustion. I don't know if you're living this, but at this time, holy cow. So what happened is my body is integrating the new frequencies, the new ways of being. You know, it's literally like a system I upgrade in a computer, so the cells are very busy now downloading the new version of me, the one that I've been processing in the past months, or probably years, years, and yeah, it's just, it needs the pause of and the rest to actually upgrade the system at this moment. That's what I'm having exhaustion and the good thing is I have I'm taking the time to do so. Like during the weekend I slept a lot. This afternoon I took a nap. I'm so happy and glad that I'm able to do it. So I just went for it to honor my body because of this process that is going.

Kena Siu: 3:55

Another sign is the increasing hunger. I was like oh my God, why am I so hungry? Because it's not very usual for me to be this hungry when I'm not in my mood. I'm kind of like in the middle of it, meaning not my menstruation. So I was like what am I so hungry? So what happened is that the body is burning more energy than normal, not just physically but energetically. So it's necessary for the body to be fed. So if you're going through this honor, it follow it, because I'm also having a lot of cravings, just to let you know.

Kena Siu: 4:38

Another sign of this, of leveling, is I don't want to study or learn. I was like like I don't usually watch a lot of TV. I do sometimes, so I rather just, you know, listen to podcasts or watch videos or review, like I'm taking a certification in a kind of breathwork practices, and so I love using the time, you know, to nourish myself, to learn something new. And I noticed lately it's like, yeah, no, I feel more into movies. So I was like, okay, I'm just gonna follow what my body feels like doing. And what I noticed at the same time is that by watching movies, it's actually helping me to mirror the situations through the ones that I'm going through and what I have that have been in the past. And so it's very interesting, like to watch movies and say, oh, okay, this resonates with me, or I'm still like in here or I am not there anymore, you know, so it's it's, it's fun to, first of all, not give me the hard time, because before I will judge myself very harshly and say, yeah, you're watching movies again and you are not learning. You know the inner critic so beautifully telling me to, freaking, do something productive. Have you heard about that? And so, yeah, honoring myself of choosing to watch movies just because I want to and I feel like it.

Kena Siu: 6:23

Another core sign that I'm up leveling is emotional roller coaster. Oh my god. I mean I'm a Pisces, I'm a hyper emotional person, but lately is like there's no reason and I'm just like whoo. You know, I'm in the top of the world, feeling super happy, and the next moment I'm kind of crying, and then I feel all these emotions, but they are just there. So I allow myself just to observe and to, of course, feel them. These are emotions and the body is here to experience these emotions, and what this means is that the inner world is actually clearing. You know the old density of the version of me that it's kind of like living. You know of the version of me that it's kind of like living. You know so it's clearing up so I can expand into whatever else that is coming. You know more joy, more freedom, more peace, more adventures. I don't know what's coming, but it is welcome.

Kena Siu: 7:41

And at the same time, I realized this yesterday because I suddenly just felt a lot of emotions and I was like what is this Like seriously? And I realized that I was processing self-grief. I mean, because if I'm up leveling, it means that an old version of me is dying, an ego, part of me is also dying. So my body is actually processing that self-grieving of these emotions, part of me that is dying and I'm so glad that I took the time to observe her and to notice what was happening, because I was able to talk to her and tell her thank you. Thank you because you are the one who has gotten me where I am now. Thank you for all your the one who has gotten me where I am now. Thank you for all your courage and all your resilience and all your devotion and all the effort and energy that you have put into it and the freaking healing process that it has been super deep. So thank you, and it was very beautiful just to do that, to honor that part of me and giving all this love and all this respect, you know, for bringing me where I am now. So, yeah, see the emotional roller coaster, roller coaster.

Kena Siu: 9:35

And uh, the fifth sign that I'm uh, up leveling is the physical pain in the body, like I had, uh, well, better said, the pain of the sciatica and in my leg, neck, from that late, oh, from my left side, came again, again and hard, like it kind of soothed for a while and then it just came very hard again. Uh and uh. Yeah, I know it's part of this up leveling because, like I don't know if you have heard that I mean the body keeps the record and the body is always telling us what we don't want to hear, what we don't want to put attention on it. So my sciatica is really like towards moving forward and I know it's in my life and more specifically with my business, more specifically with my business. So to move forward towards the goals that I want to achieve, it has taken me a lot of inner work, a lot of processes going through and a lot of egos dying in there, and I know that's why the pain is there. And then the neck is about the direction you know, and then like turning it left or right and you know by saying no or turning it up and down and saying yes.

Kena Siu: 10:54

So I am being more intentional where, when I'm taking decisions, like to really feel in my body into what is it if it's a hell, yeah, or is, if it's definitely a hell, no. So if you're feeling any of this exhaustion, hunger, resistance to learning, emotions all over the place or even pain in your body, don't just change, just bring that awareness that you might be. You know that this is proof that you are actually up leveling, that your old self is actually dissolving because a new version of you is actually landing. So let it come through and remember that you're in a cocoon phase. This is why midlife butterfly you might be in this cocoon phase and it always it's intense. It feels like a oh yeah, like a freaking roller coaster, going up and down and being in the gooey in there, and then, when we want to extend our wings, it just you know we need to use a lot of strength and courage and resilience. So stay in there. Stay in there because soon, soon, your wings will be born, like mine.

Kena Siu: 12:18

So let's just continue to enjoy the process, even when you might know as I am it is not easy. Know as I am, it is not easy. No, it is emotional, it's messy, it's tiring and all these other things that I shared. And I would like to know what else are you actually feeling, which other signs you might be experiencing if you are in a process of up-leveling. So please share with me either, you know, send me a DM, an email, or, if you are in Spotify, you can comment directly there. And, yeah, I would like to know more.

Kena Siu: 12:59

What is it that you are going through at this very moment? Thank you so much for listening. I really really appreciate your time and energy of you being here. It is an honor to have you. You in, no, to have me in your ears. That's the right saying. Thank you so much.

Kena Siu: 13:25

And if you are interested in working with me, my one-on-one coaching programs are available at 24% discount. You can check out in the show notes at the midlifebutterflyca slash coaching services. And, yeah, you can book a call with me. I will be more than happy to know what are you going through at this moment and see if we are a good match to work together. I do think it's important that we feel confident to each other when we're working with a coach, and because I have mine as well. So, yeah, book a call with me. I will be happy for that and thank you again so much for being here.

Kena Siu: 14:08

Have a wonderful, wonderful week, take care. Thank you for tuning into Midlife Butterfly. If this episode lit a spark in you, hit that subscribe or follow button on apple podcast, spotify or whatever you love to listen so you'll never miss the magic. If you're feeling generous, drop a review on apple podcast. It helps this empowering content reach more souls ready to transform their lives. And don't forget to take a photo of you while listening and share it on your socials. You can tag me at ken as you so I can celebrate you and your expansion. Until next time, keep spreading those wings and living in joy, growth and pleasure.