#45 - Why Listening to Your Body Changes Everything

Ever felt torn between what your mind says you should do and what your body whispers you need? In this raw, heart-opening episode, Kena shares why honouring yourself matters. 

From changing her own event plans to reclaiming calm and alignment, she invites you to explore what true coherence feels like: when your thoughts, emotions, and actions finally agree.

By the end, you’ll remember that honouring yourself isn’t selfish, but a way to find peace within. 

✨ In This Episode You’ll Learn

• Why honouring yourself brings instant nervous-system regulation
• How to notice when your mind leads you away from your truth
• What coherence really means (and how to live from it daily)
• How self-honouring becomes your pathway to freedom and calm

🦋 Reflection Questions

1. Where in your life are you overriding your truth just to keep the peace?
2. How would it feel to let your body—not your mind—lead the way today?
3. What might open up if you trusted your inner “no” as much as your “yes”?

First You: Boundaries for Joyful Holidays

As the holiday season begins, join this sacred space to prepare, ground, and protect your peace.

You’ll learn how to set loving, guilt-free boundaries that help you enjoy the holidays — with presence, joy, and ease.

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Song: Reborn by Alexander Nakarada

Chapters

• 0:36 Welcome And Midlife Metaphor
• 1:19 The Theme: Honouring Yourself
• 1:32 Pivoting A Three-Day Event
• 2:50 Holidays, Triggers, And Boundaries
• 3:50 Life Load And Realignment
• 6:39 Breathwork, Oxytocin, And Energy
• 8:09 Choosing Less Stress And Alignment
• 10:01 From Mental Spiral To Body Wisdom

Transcript

Kena Siu: 0:20

First, you why honoring yourself matters. This is Kena Siu. Welcome back to the Midlife Butterfly Podcast. I'm so glad to have you here. And if you are new, welcome, welcome, welcome. This is the life of the butterfly. We're going through different stages during this midlife transitions of life. So we are here to fly again to cuckoo, to witherworm, whatever space, place we are, always welcome. All is welcome. That's the beauty of midlife, right? And today I want to be short and yeah. So what I want to talk about is the importance of honoring yourself, why it matters. And I'm gonna give you a really clear, very, very clear example. I am hosting an event next week. It was a three-day activation. First you coming back, coming home to yourself. And I decided to change it. Yes. So instead of three days now, it's gonna be a one day, it's gonna be a mastermind. First you boundaries, hold on, for joyful holidays. I think that's gonna be very important. This is gonna be just before, well, the holidays. We have more family gatherings and friends' gatherings, and there are some triggers in there, and then we, you know, we get to let others cruise our boundaries. So the idea is to dig in into that. Okay, so that's one thing. My point with this short podcast is about why it matters honoring yourself. This three-day activation, finally, it didn't kind of align. I have a lot of things going on at this moment, and I'm going to mention them just for you to realize that everyone has different stuff going on in their lives. We never know. So please don't assume. And so the thing is, it's November. I'm a digital nomad. So next month I'm heading back to my home country, Mexico. So I'm in the middle of renting my apartment, I'm in the middle of doing a certification. We're having an exam this week, and there's still another one, the beginning of December, for the neuroepigenetic breathing that it's blowing my mind. And eventually, I seriously, I cannot wait to share this powerful kind of breath of meditation with you because it has changed my life. And if you see me with this energy today, because yesterday at this hour, I was feeling like crap to tell you the truth. But this morning, I this I did this super powerful meditation, was filled with love, making love just to the energy of love itself. I know it sounds crazy, but it's so beautiful, and you know, filling my body with this oxytocin, and that's why I'm so fucking turned on now. I didn't have to touch myself. No, it's just the energy, it's just the intention, and it's so fucking beautiful. So eventually I'm gonna share it with you. So, yeah, so this is also happening. I'm about also to apply for a part-time job, since well, my coaching business is still in the making, and well, there are bills to pay. This is life, right? And yeah, and at the same time, I'm going back home with my family, with all of them in there. So I think changing the first you two actually boundaries to have joy show joyful holidays is much better and less vague as coming back home to yourself, even though that is a very powerful statement and it's possible to do, but that's for another thing. So, yeah, by me checking it with myself in a stillness and realizing that yeah, this three-day event that I plan at the very beginning, it doesn't align with all the stuff that is happening at this very moment, right? So I chose to change this to December 20th, not December, November 20th, instead of the three days from the 18 to the 20th, and it feels much better, and I feel calmer because the truth is we get to choose many times. We get to choose. Sometimes it might not be the best option that we have, but sometimes, I mean, from those two, there might be something that it's better for you, right? I am glad that I have this flexibility to say, no, I don't want to do this anymore, so I choose to do this other thing. And by choosing that, again, I release stress, I released a lot of pressure in my shoulders, and at the same time, I'm honoring myself. I'm honoring myself, and I feel coherent with what I am planning to do, meaning like with my action that I'm taking, with the feelings that I'm having, and with the thoughts that I'm creating. So, by having this alignment, my nervous system is calmed. So that's the importance of being true to yourself, listening to your body more than the mind, because the mind plays us so so hard. Like literally, yesterday, since the year, this the day before, I was in a freaking hole. I allow my mind to took me, to take me there, and it was freaking hell until I little by little start reacting, and I said, like, I feel so blast, so damp. It's like, okay, let's get out of the mind, let's get back to the body, and just by the simple action of leaving my bed, meaning leaving that environment which it was toxic at that very moment, because I was allowing my mind to play out with me. So I get out of there, I got dressed to come to conflict clothing, and I just came and did some meditation and breath work. And you know what? The funny part, even though I did the same meditation that I did today, yesterday was a complete different thing that I experienced. There were more emotions coming through there because of course it was. If I was in that kind of like I felt into dissociation, I felt like numbed, you know, like you are doing something, but at the same time I was feeling paralyzed, and yeah, my body tends to do that to dissociate. So as soon as I start taking action, and then I did my did this meditation, and then I I did some movement and dancing, which is included in it, but it just shifted me, and by doing some journaling, also, so all those little things helped me to come back into coherence because by noon I was another person completely. So, where are the things that you can do to honor yourself by following your intuition, following what your body is telling you? Because again, don't believe what your mind is telling you because you are not your dots, you are the witness of it, you are the observer, you are the consciousness behind it, but you are not it, you are this beautiful temple body, you're not this beautiful soul having the experience in this body. So when we get to shift that, the mind calms down, and by doing that and tuning in more into the body, and really noticing okay, what am I thinking? Okay, this is happening, this is what I'm thinking. In that case, you get to choose something different, right? Because whatever you're thinking is the emotions that you might be having in your body, and then based on those emotions is how we take action. So, in order for you to live more in coherence to honor yourself, it's about that having your thoughts, your emotions, and your actions in alignment. So you can live in coherence with a regulator or more regulated nervous system, and that's where a neutral state comes in. It's not that we have to be high in the all the joyful and excitement the whole time, it happens, yes, but it's also when we allow that neutrality that is just that peace, or at least if there's something still there, it's okay. We get into this equanimity and we accept what is right, so that's my share for today. That is a sweet and short episode for today because I have a class for my Euro epigenetic breathing certification. And I want to wish you a wonderful week. I want to wish you that you get into that coherence in your life. It's little shifts, it's little choices that you can take every moment. And the more important thing here is awareness because the more aware you are, the better choices you might take, and the better you're gonna be creating your reality. Okay, much love to you. Follow me in Mid Life Butterfly on Instagram and comment, rate, whatever feels good for you. And I will be so happy to hear from you what you take from this and from other episodes if you would like to binge around. Much love to you. Thank you so much.