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#48 - Your Soul's Blueprint: Remembering Who You Already Are with Jeanne Comeau

• Kena Siu • Episode 48

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There’s a moment in midlife when everything you thought you knew about yourself starts to fall apart… and even though it feels terrifying, something inside whispers, This is the beginning.

 In today’s episode, we explore what your soul has been trying to tell you all along — that you didn’t come here to chase purpose… you came here to remember. Joined by metaphysical guide and evolutionary astrologer Jeanne Comeau, we dive into your soul’s blueprint, the emotional patterns you incarnated with, and the identity shifts that awaken during midlife.

 We also go straight into the last 20 minutes of the episode — where Jeanne breaks down the truth about perimenopause and menopause, how hormonal changes impact your clarity, mood, energy, and sense of self, and what practical options can support your wellbeing.

 By the end, you’ll feel held, informed, and empowered — able to see your midlife chapter not as a breakdown, but as your soul guiding you home.


✨ In This Episode, You’ll Learn

  • How your soul’s blueprint reveals the woman you’re becoming
  • Why midlife triggers a spiritual awakening and identity shift
  • What happens when you stop seeking answers outside yourself
  • How your thoughts shape your emotional and physical reality
  • The truth about aligning with your soul’s timing and purpose
  • How perimenopause + menopause shifts impact your mind, emotions, and identity


🦋 Reflection Questions

  1. Where in your life are you being invited to remember who you truly are — beyond roles, expectations, and old stories?
  2. How are your physical shifts (perimenopause or menopause) asking you to slow down, listen, or support yourself differently?
  3. What becomes possible when you trust your inner wisdom more than your fear?


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Kena Siu:

What if your soul came here with a blueprint? A cosmic map whispering who you are meant to become? In a world that teaches us to chase purpose, what if true fulfillment comes from remembering instead? Today we are exploring how the stars, metaphysics, and the wisdom of the unseen can guide us back home to ourselves with my guest, Jeanne Comeau. Midlife butterfly, a woman in the sacred in-between. She's not who she once was, and not quite who she's becoming yet. She's unraveling, awakening, remembering. She's navigating life transitions, divorce, loss, rainbow, and moods, with a burning desire for freedom, joy, and solid living. She feels the pull to rise, to fly. She's no longer afraid of her own wings. Welcome back to the Midlife Butterfly Podcast. I am Kena Siu, your host, and today I'm joined here with Jeanne Comeauus. Blending deep metaphysical wisdom with practical life coaching, she helps people decode their bird chart as a living roadmap to awaken their soul's blueprint. Through her signature Know Your Star Sessions, Jeanne illuminates karmic patterns, reveals hidden gifts, and offers clear direction for living in alignment with one's truest path. Her work bridges spirituality and psychology, inspiring confidence, healing, and the courage to step boldly into the life your soul was always meant to live. Welcome to the podcast, Jeannie. Oh, thank you, Ken.

Jeanne Comeau:

What a wonderful introduction. I wow, is that really me?

Kena Siu:

It seems like it is. I mean, and I kind of like summarize it because you have quite a lot of knowledge and wisdom and yes.

Jeanne Comeau:

And thank you for that. And as I was listening to that, there are so many guides and healers and people that we seek out in this world because life, you know, it hurts. You know, like like the human experience comes with its ups and its downs. We like the ups, but we get the downs. And so we're always looking for well, who can help me feel better? Who can help me get what I want? Who can help me? And so while that introduction certainly sounded like I I could help everything and you know, make you a cake and with a cherry on the top, the truth of the matter is the one that can help you is you and only you. The answers are within. And so, all in all of what I do, my goal is to lead, and even that word kind of turns me off sometimes, but but to guide others, to show others, to reveal to others that the answers are within. Yes, they're not out there. And you know, Ken, I I re I'm on a roll now, so you set me on a roll, but I remember my life coming up before midlife. And you know, don't want to totally age myself, but I've been through midlife. Okay. So the internet wasn't that prevalent when I was in my teens, and you had to go to the bookstores for the books, and there weren't a lot of quote-unquote self-help books or helpers, but we we all felt that we we needed help to get to get through life. And I started to build my library of self-help books, one after another after another. And I liken it, Kenna, to you know, where where was the answer? Which teacher, which guru, which guide was really gonna fix me. Oh, you want $200? Oh, you want a thousand. Well, how much is this one gonna cost? And then depending on the the the way they tapped into my psyche and triggered my fears, which which is another topic I'd love to get to because as coaches, you and I, triggering fears is not the way to lead. But, anyways, these various healers would trigger the fears, and I would sign up and I would believe that this would be it. And of course, it never really was, right? Until I came through uh, you know, a spiritual journey, you know, when we're young, you know, who wants to hear about God? You know, depending on your upbringing, of course, but my upbringing, who wants to hear about God? Because that means I'm gonna have to stop living, you know, because the fear of the wrath of God, I can't do anything, you know, everything is sinning. Roman Catholic, everything's the sin. Yes. Right, right, right. So, at any rate, through the spirituality of it, and then finally leading to metaphysics and what led me to want to become fully ensconced in metaphysics and where the PhD came from, okay, right? That that's that's a nice thing to have, but it shows that I went through the work and I continue to go through the work. I'm working on another doctorate in metaphysical physical science because I want to feel it within me. I want it, I want to know how to tap into those answers that are within me. No one outside of us can fix us, and all the people that we work with can only get us a step closer. Yeah, yes. Oh hopefully that opened us up.

Kena Siu:

Oh, yeah. I mean, that's what we are here for to again to find our own answers. And as you said, there are too many people out there, and even us as coaches, and we are simply guides, because as you're saying, the answers are within us.

Jeanne Comeau:

The answers are within us, and and a and a lot of times with clients, and and I remember even in my story too, it was like I had to be given permission to believe that. I had to be given permission to believe that because there's so much external pressure that tells us, I've got the thing that's gonna make you happy. You know, and in the younger years, it can be that beautiful bag, purse, and you know, all these external things that are gonna make or a person is gonna make you happy. No way, it can't, it's it's an inside job. And so, how do we do the inside work? Well, we have to get to know who we are, and we have to face the things that hurt and understand why they hurt, right, Kina? Kenna? Yes, that's that's what I found, and it hurt.

Kena Siu:

Yeah, yeah, I yeah, I I feel you so much, like just your words are just giving me shields because yeah, since we are born, we are always, I mean, our upbringing is to focus always in the exterior, right? And then they tell you how you're supposed to behave and what to say and what to think, and then they put consciously or unconsciously all these programs, right? Either if it's for culture, society, religion. And it's just crazy how confusing we became that fast, I mean, that young in between our zero, even before, probably since we are in our mom's womb until seven, by that time, we already think we learn from the beginning, yes, that love is outside of us, you see.

Jeanne Comeau:

So we we you know, mom and dad, bless us that have had them and and others that have loved and cared to for us and various capabilities that they had, right? So we have to give them, but we learned that even love, and so then self-love was outside of us, yes. And so so there there became it's part of the separation from universal one, it's the human experience to lead us back to self-love and and you know, we're all one pixel in the big bright picture of life, yeah.

Kena Siu:

And the thing is to to come back to that self-love. I mean, everyone has their own journey, but for me, it took me four decades.

Jeanne Comeau:

You know, four decades is not unusual, is is is what I've seen. Uh, you know, and and here we are on the midlife butterfly podcast, which which I loved. The midlife, I think, you know, midlife is midlife is when we start the journey home. Yeah, I totally agree. Is the awakening? It it is. And and for some people, you ever everything that you've done up to then prepares you for it, you know, really does prepare you for it. So it's it's yes.

Kena Siu:

Yes. So I would like before we move forward to to know what is it or how do you find you how do you define the what's the soul's blueprint, and also since you know a lot about metaphysics, also to explain what is metaphysics.

Jeanne Comeau:

Metaphysics is a science, I believe it's a science, and it's the search for the meaning of life. So metaphysics is the search for the truth. So all of these various things fall under the umbrella of metaphysics. We we've heard of well, it's had a long storied history, but for me, it's the search for the meaning of life. It is true philosophy, it is, it transcends all religions, it is comprised of all all of the masters, Buddha, Jesus, Allah. You bring them all in because there is no separation. So in the beginning, in the beginning, in the beginning, was the one. There was the one energy. Call it energy, call it light, call it love, because it really is love. Where did it come from? Well, I can't answer that, and and I don't feel bad about that because no one's been able to answer that. It just always was, is the best that we can say. But this energy was always there, and this energy was pure light and pure love to to the essence that no one can truly understand. I mean, think about feeling true love in your life, maybe from one of your parents or or an aunt or an uncle, and you just felt so loved, that's wonderful, but the pure love of our creator exceeds that beyond all imagination. So it is all pure love. And this light, as the story is told to us, uh, wanted to experience itself, and it couldn't experience itself being itself, and it created, it created other entities, created what eventually on planet Earth became humans. You know, we'll leave all of all of the other galaxies, and that'll blow your mind out there, right? But it but it created humans, and so we all are from the one, and and that is the essence of metaphysics. We we believe that I believe everything is energy because everything is energy. So I get a I get a lot into energy healing, and you we are our physical bodies are 99.999 something percent energy. We are only the smallest, minutest amount of matter, and so we can get into the science of all of that. But what people need to realize is they're made up of energy, they're made up of the earth, they're made up of the cosmos. We are holograms, you know. We can get there, we truly are holograms. We are creating our own individual reality with our thoughts. Your thoughts create your life, and I work with my clients in this space a lot. Your thoughts create your life, guard them, they're your treasure, right? Really guard the be what's coming into your mind. So, metaphysics kind of touches into all of these spaces, and and for me, it it answered all of the questions that I've been asking and asking and asking, and it allowed me to truly tap into the belief that I am part of the one. You see, religion didn't do that for me, you know. Christianity, I was raised Roman Catholic, and then I delved into non-denominational Christianity, which was part of the journey. It helped a lot, actually, because it allowed me to break away from the strictness of Roman Catholicism and it allowed me to understand the love of Jesus, right? Who was here and and did bring love and showed us that we are all part of the one. You see, he was the way shower, brought the message to us, as many others have. And so that that to me is metaphysics. I might have gone off on on a sideways there, but we're we're all one, and and we have to, I don't say we have to, in time, either be it this lifetime or another lifetime, because I do believe in reincarnation and and that souls come come and reincarnate. Uh, it's either this lifetime or another lifetime, but throughout every lifetime, the goal is to become closer to the essence of the one. The goal is to transcend all of the lessons of the human experience. And the closer you become, eventually you become quote unquote enlightened. You know, eventually you don't reincarnate as a human unless you want to, unless by choice to help the people, such as the enlightened masters would do. They they they would come back by choice because it, you know, it's not an easy journey for anybody, no matter, no matter what your circumstances are. Somebody born into poverty, somebody born into extreme wealth, different lifestyles, still human pain, still human psycho pain. It doesn't make it easier one way or another.

Kena Siu:

Yeah, no, yeah, that's true. And yeah, because it doesn't matter, each of us, we have our own experience or human experience here. And as you said, I also believe in reincarnation, so it means that every time it's gonna be different, right? Because every time we arrive, I mean, we come from a blank canvas.

Jeanne Comeau:

Yes, and well, actually, I'd like to add to the blank canvas. Yes. You come from the DNA of all the previous lives, the energetic, emotional DNA. You know, and so I'm an evolutionary astrologer. There, there are many, uh, I'll devil into that for a second and then come back to the canvas, but there are many branches of astrology. And astrology has existed for eons and eons. Ancient Mesopotomia, the earliest recorded evidence of astrology, I say it goes back before then, to civilizations that are still buried on this planet, right? So astrology has has always guided humans to understanding their what was happening on Earth, which was really what it was used first and foremost for, for farming and just keeping society intact and together. And then it moved into well, you're a Leo or you're a Pisces, so these are your characteristics. And then coming up through the 60s, and after Sigmund Freud brought us psychology, Carl Jung came along and took that deeper into what is called depth psychology, where we really understand the triggers of the human psyche through evolutionary through astrology. Astrology plays into depth psychology. And so evolutionary astrology, just to way fast forward that, asks us why do you have the chart you have? And by chart I mean birth chart. Why do you have the birth chart you have? And so this takes us back to the blank canvas or the canvas, if you will. In every lifetime, the soul comes forward to experience again, still still looking to evolve, to never have to experience the pain of human existence again, but comes to experience again and chooses uh the time and moment of birth and place and birth family, chooses the situations for the soul's evolutionary uh intention for the lifetime. And so we the what what transcends death and rebirth is the emotional DNA. I'll call it DNA, but the emotions we you know, I I remember I'm just by the way, I'm the fourth of nine children, and so that's a lot of kids. And I remember my mom saying, I don't know how you can all be so different. You all came out of the same kitchen. What a great saying, right? Well, we are different because we're different souls, and if only she'd have known, she might have had an easier go at it. Yes, but we all come in with soul intention, agenda for the lifetime.

Kena Siu:

Is this the soul's blueprint?

Jeanne Comeau:

It is okay, it is the soul's blueprint. Now, there are a lot of ways nowadays that we're looking at the soul's blueprint, certainly human design taps into it, you know, and we can go back to the earlier personality tests like Myers Briggs. You know, maybe a number of people have had that tap into it. I am a Gallup strengths finder coach. And even though that assessment doesn't ask for birth information, it's uncanny how just by asking a number of questions, it taps into your psyche and it ties back to the the the blueprint. I I can see that. So all these tests have come along and they do tell us a lot about ourselves. So we we come in with intention, and I'll I'll I'll come to this part, Kenna. The key to going within, tapping into your inner self, the key to self-love is knowing yourself, knowing yourself, yeah. Totally agreed. You know, the the ancient Greek temple at Apollo, if I said that right, um, know thyself. Yes. The the ancient philosophers know thyself. Many teachers know thyself. So what does that mean? Know what your soul's blueprint is. Evolutionary astrology. I I I'm a practitioner of it, I'm certified in it because I see it works. It works. So feel free to interrupt me at any time, can't examine.

Kena Siu:

I'm just in you got a Leo here. She'll just keep going. Um I'm just in awe with all these wisdom that you are sharing. And yeah, thank you for asking me because I want to go back to a couple of things. At one point, you mentioned dots are your treasure. I love this because I mean, the way we have programmed, we at one point during my journey, you know, I was hearing a lot of stuff that, oh, the ego is your enemy. It's like, and now I know he's not my enemy anymore, right? But it's just about then uh realizing or knowing those different voices that are in our head. I mean, that's the way I I perceive it. So I do love this part of you that you said, dots are your treasures, because if we consider them that way, we will be more aware, conscious, and of keeping them like that as a treasure, and saying, What is it really, you know, gold in here, and what it is not, to have that awareness to really take them away.

Jeanne Comeau:

It's extremely powerful. It's extremely powerful. You know, in Genesis, God spoke the word. So speak about the word, right? A word is first a thought before it's spoken, right? Yeah, and it creates is the message there. If you think a thought, you're creating, if you speak a thought, you're creating more powerfully because everything is energy, so it's got vibration and it goes out. Yes. When I it uh we our minds go off all the time, it's not easy to stop the mind. But if we if we start on the journey, and uh I just back up for a second. Everything that we're saying here is not easy. I just have to point that out. It's not easy, but when you know better, you do better, to quote Maya Angelo. Oh, yeah, I know better. And for some of our listeners, maybe this is the first time they're really hearing what we're saying about their thoughts. And so this can be a seed, this can be a beginning, but it doesn't mean that you're able to stop the negative thoughts now because you aren't. I'll go back to the ego. Everything about you is good, even the ego. You need the ego. If you didn't have the ego, you wouldn't exist. All right, so it's part of the human experience. The the interesting thing about the ego is we're led to believe that the ego is only interested in self self-preservation at the expense of everybody else, and to some degree it is, and that's because it's fittest of, you know, we have to survive, right? So the ego keeps us surviving. But if we can know that our ego is there to help us survive and work it to the point where we're thinking more about others than we are about ourselves. How can I be kinder to others? How can I how can I stop thinking about just me, just me and what I need, but start to think about others in a nutshell. I may come back to that topic. And so I come back to thoughts. What you think you create, that is absolutely true. Yes, be it negative or positive. So when we look at our lives, and this is when I work with clients, when we look at our lives, we have to realize and accept we're responsible. We're responsible. Another great mom quote, because I my mom had them all. Your life is what you make it, she told me. I was in my young 20s. I'm like, you you gotta be kidding me. You know, that this is not what I want. This is not what I want, you know, and and and it's what I created. Well, how do I do better? I think that just got me to go to the bookstore and buy more self-help books, right? Yeah, right. And so, so thoughts of things and thoughts create. And the the key to getting away from the negative thoughts, be they uh beating yourself up, or negative thoughts about others as you seek to compare yourself to others so you can feel better about yourself, those are negative thoughts, or negative thoughts about what you did wrong in the past, they all create this dark cloud around you, and and you just sink.

Kena Siu:

Yeah, because then from there also came our emotions, right? What you also mentioned, and because as you said, like if we are blaming ourselves for what we did in the past is when the shame and the guilt is, and we have so many. I mean, it depends on our history, but as humans, we those emotions are also there, yes, and and unfortunately, it can bring us to this rabbit hold and then not be able then to allow ourselves to shine or to feel better because we are stuck in those emotions that in a way come from the buttons. But I do believe that the body is the subconscious mind, so it's like a well, it'll bring it'll bring illness, it'll make you sick.

Jeanne Comeau:

Yes. So energy and motion, emotions, emotions, energy and emotions. So these dark clouds that we bring about through negative thoughts do create an emotion in our physical body that brings disharmony that will bring illness. You see, it's difficult to accept this, but unless we're we're being poisoned, and we are to some degree through food and water in this world these days, unless we're being poisoned, we're we're creating the disharmony in our body with our thoughts. So we're making ourselves sick with our thoughts. So, how do we stop the negative thoughts? It takes courage. And even when and even when you're crying, and I've been there, and even when you're crying, you say God loves me, and the tears are coming down, or whatever you refer to higher consciousness as loves me, loves me, loves me. Start to just just keep saying it, keep saying it, start small. I am loved, I am loved, I am loved. And bat out the negative thoughts to the best of your ability. You know, the sun will come up tomorrow, you know, it will, and so it'll feel better. And and sometimes, yes, just go to bed and pull the covers up and cry, and the sun will come up tomorrow. And I am loved, I am loved. And it's really important to try to stay in the here and now. A great line, Kenna, is Kina. I don't know why. Kenna, apologies, is I'm completely aware in the here and now. I am completely aware in the here and now. This is a phrase that comes to us through a methodology called the fourth way. It's a spirit. Virtual path. I am completely aware in the here and now. And it seeks us to teach us to remember who we are, which is part of the one pure love. I am loved, I am loved, I am loved. I'm completely aware in the here and now. And as far as beating ourselves up, which I've done, I can still do that. Right. I learned, I don't know where I ever got it from, but early on, because I was almost taking on the guilt of what happened in the family home, you see. And I just, it dawned on me one day. I was a kid. What did I know? I I couldn't fix it. I was only, I was only a child. So forgive yourself what you weren't for what you weren't able to do. Help your mom, help your dad, help your siblings. I was only a child. I did the best I could. I did the best I could.

Kena Siu:

And you know, even as grown-ups, too. Yeah. Yeah. Because I think the fact that we're gonna do and have mistakes in life, like uh or failures, but I don't like calling them failures anymore. They are learning lessons, they are, right? So they are it's about just knowing that we are in this journey, and it's about that, about keep learning, because that's that's the only way we can get to know ourselves better.

Jeanne Comeau:

That is the only way, and we we have to know ourselves better. Uh know thyself, know thyself, know thyself is the and and the surrender to know thyself, know thyself, accept thyself, surrender to who you are, to surrender to everything that's happened, let it go. Tomorrow's another day. Yeah, yeah. I wonder, I wonder what is it about society? I'd love, you know, what is it about society that's got us locked into just beating the hell out of ourselves? Well, it's the way they can manipulate us, yeah. Right? Do you think there's a sense of if they're if they're not happy, then then you know they'll they'll tell the line. They won't be independently happy. And yeah.

Kena Siu:

Yeah.

Jeanne Comeau:

Well, I'm all I'm all about helping people, all of us, reach an enlightened society. That's what motivates me every day. There is an enlightened society, and and it's a it's a time where we all have have come to an understanding that we are part of the one, that because of that, there is self-love, and there's love of others before thyself, and that takes care of that ego that wants to just you know, discount other people or or say bad things about other people or do bad things to other people. You know, they're you, yes, they're you, and agony, you know, just another version of it. What's interesting about energy is there's the boomerang effect. So let's go back to thoughts, right? Okay, yeah, I I could be driving down the street with a friend, and and you know, somebody cuts them off and he's got a few words to say. And I say, that's coming right back at you, honey. Right back at you. It's the boomerang. And you know, so let's bring up that dark cloud again. All those negative thoughts that that we have about ourselves that we seek to make ourselves feel better by dragging others down. And social media is a great way to drag others down, right? Oh, look at that, oh, look at that, oh, look at that. Um, so you know, puffing ourselves up, puffing up the the the the false ego, the false ego, dragging each other, dragging others down, not loving the others for simply being who they are, will darken your cloud.

Kena Siu:

Yes. And we come back again to the know yourself because the more we get to know ourselves by accepting and understanding our light and our shadow, the more we're gonna be able to accept others. It has to come from within. Again, it's the self, the self is first, the self is first.

Jeanne Comeau:

So, so know yourself, know why you're different than others. You know, this is another interesting thing. When you know yourself, you know you're different than others, and that's cool. That's really cool. Why do you want to be like everybody else? Again, social media. Why do you want to look like these people, talk like these people, dress like these people? You want to be yourself. You were, you know, the everybody else is taken. I forget who I think I forget who said that. Everybody else is taken, just be you, and and when you know yourself and you accept yourself for the DNA that you came in with and and what you're here to do in this lifetime, then the ego takes a side step, you know, because it doesn't have to hold up the false self anymore. It's not about that. Yeah, it's about living why you came here, it's about living your mission. And mission doesn't need to be grand, but everybody came here for a purpose. And you know, did you come here to be a writer, a singer? Did you come here to be the best mom ever, the best aunt ever, whatever it is, and they're all wonderful things because it's you, and that's why you came here. Uh, so we are all to express in our unique ways, yeah. And it's it's like if you look at the one and and you you take a look at earth, take a look at all the souls that are on earth incarnated today, and each one is is is a pixel in the large picture, a unique pixel. And so when we're all our authentic self, then the earth lights up, it's enlightened.

Kena Siu:

Yeah, I want to come back to that purpose because I do think that since we we are very young, we are pushed to know that purpose, and sometimes it's so frustrated. I mean, it took me a while to then become an entrepreneur and knowing what I wanted to do, and that has evolved anyway. But I I felt at one point that there was like this pressure and pressure, and now what I have come kind of like to a conclusion, still getting that answer between quotes, is the fact that our purpose really is to live, to live this human experience, yes, and because I have talked to women, and sometimes it's like, you know, and more if they are in in life transitions, it's like I don't know who I am, I feel lost and broken, and etc. etc. And it's like I don't know what my life purpose is. Well, what about if at this very moment your life purpose is to I don't know, grieve your marriage, or your life purpose at this moment is to take care of your children because they're growing up and they need you there. We always think that as you said, it needs to be something big, the purpose in life. No, it's about living and what are you choosing to live now in this present moment.

Jeanne Comeau:

And and you started off with uh saying the woman says, I don't know who I am. That's the key right there. Yes, know yourself. The other, the other thing is the purpose changes throughout the lifetime. True, it changes according to the stage of life. When when you're in your, you know, uh at 29, 30, you go through your first Saturn return, you know, you're you're you're you're leaving adolescence, you're going into adulthood. So it just as an example, but it it changes as you go through life. But what doesn't change is the energy that you came in with by way of skills and talents, they're there, they're there in your chart. And you were created or you incarnated with particular skills and talents that you are meant to express in in the world through yourself, creativity. Everybody is supposed to be creating, okay? Creativity brings joy, it's life. Yes, it's life, you know. When when we're in that dark cloud, who we no one can create, right? We we just tunnel dug ourselves and we got to get out of there. I am loved, I am loved, I am loved to get yourself out of the hole. And so the purpose of life, what is the purpose of life? Absolutely, Kenna, it is to live your life, to create, to bring joy, to use the skills and talents that you came in with to express and love humanity with. Right? So see, we're all here to be part of the whole, not as individual false egos, but we're all here to be part of the whole and yeah.

Kena Siu:

I love this so much. Yes, I would like to know like we can which kind of metaphysical practices can you offer to, in this case, midlife women who are in transitions to get to know themselves better, to get into alignment with their soul's blueprint.

Jeanne Comeau:

Meditate. Meditate. And and so it's it's and what does meditate mean? It can be it means many different things to many different people. You can go so far as to have the candle, have the incense, have the chimes, you you know, you have all the paraphernalia. That's wonderful, if that's how you like to meditate. It can be as simple as I'm sitting at a dining room chair, back straight, feet on the floor, closing your eyes, and uh making the room as quiet as you can, starting for five minutes a day. The key is consistency. So the the what I would first recommend is be still, go within. Remember, everything is within. Feel it. See, we we don't like to meditate because we then start to feel. But if we're unable to feel who we really are, how can we connect with who we really are? We have to feel it. You know, in the up in up until midlife, life keeps us busy. So we don't have to feel. We're on the treadmill. You know, we go, we come up, we get we get through the family experience, God bless us, and then we get through the whole socialization, and we're looking to mate, and we're looking to have families and go to school, and then it's the job, and you know, and then finally all of this is done, and you get to midlife, and none of it, none of that holds any more value. You're going through a transition, you're going home. And so, how do you how do you get home? You go within and you meditate. So I recommend starting meditating. And you know, one thing that works works great is you can get it out on YouTube, Tibetan Singing Bulls. Just Tibetan Singing Bulls, and it's a 10-minute YouTube video. So when it stops, you're done. But just keep your eyes closed. And yes, you're gonna think about everything, every and the negative thoughts are gonna come. So, what I would recommend then that you add is a mantra. I am loved, I am loved, I am loved until you feel loved by source, because that's the only love that matters, that's the only love that's true. There's no you humans will tell you they love you. Well, we've all experienced that, okay? Some of it holds and most of it doesn't. And so, because people are people and they're going along their way, and we forgive them for that, and so meditate. That's that's what I really recommend is start there, bring in an affirmation. Okay, I am loved, I am loved. Another great affirmation that I love that I'd love to share with your audience is I look with wonder at that which lies before me. That's a hopeful one. So write that down. I look with wonder at that which lies before me. This is metaphysical prayer, it's it's an affirmation, and it's hard to say it when you're crying, but then if you keep doing it, you might start laughing. Okay, okay. So we have we have to we have to drag ourselves through it. No one can do it for us.

Kena Siu:

Definitely, yeah.

Jeanne Comeau:

And some days are easier than others, and why? Well, there are energetic influences that that are influencing you, and there's environmental influences, and so we talk energetically. I'll come back to astrology. You were born with a birth chart and your soul's blueprint. There are positions of planets in different realms of your human experience. We call them houses, and those planets have what we call aspects in astrology, but they're geometric connections, and so they're energetic connections. And so some planets help each other and some planets oppose each other and create friction in the life, and that's part of the life blueprint story. So if you understand your chart, if you know yourself through evolutionary astrology, and I'm one and there are others out there, evolutionary astrology is the type of astrology to go into. It is soul blueprint astrology. If you understand yourself that way, you're under able to understand what your triggers are. What's triggering you? Okay. Why do I find myself in that position again? What triggers you? Now then, when you're able to absorb your soul's blueprint and those energies that are playing out in your life, I guarantee it. I this is real stuff. They're playing out, it's happening whether you know about it or not. Some years you can look back on your life, some years were great, some not so great. Well, things were happening. You were going through key points in your evolutionary soul blueprint. What then happens, Kenna, is the sky is changing all the time. And so there are further influences to your birth chart that comes from the changing sky. And it is uncanny when I when I read people's astrology, excuse me for the allergies, when I read people's astrology, it is uncanny how at the different phases of life, different planetary configurations come along and say, it's time to do that soul lesson. It's time to do that soul lesson. So let's talk about knowing better and doing better. When you know that you're in a phase of life, and sometimes they can be two, three years long. Okay, you're in a phase of life where you're in a soul lesson phase of life. When you understand that, your emotions are easier to deal with. I don't say they go away, but you understand what's triggering them. And you can almost even laugh. You can say, Oh, that's that that's that thing happening there. And you know, the astrologer told me this is all lifting by January 2026. Thank God. Right? And it will, and it will. Okay. So hopefully that answered. I got carried away.

Kena Siu:

I got carried. I guess I'm gonna have to have a reading with you because I have something that I've been working for a few years. It's it would be nice to have a date, I guess.

Jeanne Comeau:

You know, one one of the more interesting points is what is called the progressed moon. So you're born with the moon in a particular position, and the moon uh there is in astrology what's called progressions, and there's a mathematical calculation about it. Who cares about that? But every two and a half years you enter into a different emotional phase of life. Oh, it's a different emotional phase of life, and it's what it means for an individual is all dictated by where that progressed moon lands in their chart, what astrological sign it's landing in, and what birth chart planets it is uh connecting to. And so we go through every two and a half years, and and in fact, it takes the progress moon 27 and a half years to come through every house and every sign. 20. So we go it goes around the circle every 27 and a half years, and at any point in time, you can look back to 27 and a half years ago in your life and get a sense of your emotional self. Okay, and it's really interesting to do that. You know, COVID, COVID brought us all many gifts, right? Many gifts. That's how I look at COVID. Yeah, me too. Me, yeah. I I I landed in the metaphysical school and I really studied my stars. Know your stars, you know, which is which is my trademark for for know you know your know thyself through evolutionary astrology. But I really studied it, and it was amazing to me what the the patterns, the patterns, the patterns. And so I love working with with everybody actually. But it's never too late. Well, it's never too late to be what you might have always been or should have been. Oh, never, or was created to be. Yeah, what were you created to be? Okay, we can add the do and have because we were all created to have uh joy and abundance, and abundance just doesn't mean a big bank account, right?

Kena Siu:

So cannot so much juiciness in here. I'm just thinking, what can we go now?

Jeanne Comeau:

Yes, well, we're our our audience is primarily women, yes? Yes, okay. So you and I on the warm-up, we were gonna have a little bit of a chat about the physics, the the physical of midlife. Yes, hormones, yes, yeah. Oh yes, yes, yes. We mentioned something. Yes, let's talk about estrogen. Let's talk about testosterone, let's talk about progesterone, and and you know, there's thyroid and there's all sorts of hormones. So a passion of mine, and I think one of your follow-on questions was what is it do I like to do? You know, some people like to go for a walk in the garden. Well, I I love to research all things health. So menopause comes upon us in in our early 50s on average, but perimenopause can start up to 10 years ahead of that. And to understand how difficult the transition can be. Oh, I uh another funny one about my mother. I remember visiting her before I uh, you know, I was in my 30s and maybe 40s, that was it had to be the 40s. She says, Oh, you're gonna be going through the change soon. I said, The change? I'm looking at my clothes, the change. I had no idea what she's talking about, the change. Yes. And I she offered some wisdom words, I'm sure, which unfortunately I don't remember, but I did go through it. And if if a woman physically is well endowed, you know, voluptuous woman, she's had a lot of estrogen raging through her body through her entire life. It is hard for estrogen-rich women to go through menopause. Why? Because the estrogen that your body thrived on, and it had a lot of it, is leaving. It's leaving, it's it's done its purpose, it's gonna go away, and it's more difficult. If a woman less voluptuous, okay, she she had more, we could say more testosterone. And by the way, women have testosterone just like men do. It's very important for women testosterone. It's what keeps us from falling when we're 90, right? So it's very important hormone. So in perimenopause, the these hormones start to go crazy. And we can experience night sweats, waking up soaking wet, we're not sleeping, we're laughing and we're crying at the same time. We're crying, we don't know why we're crying. It's it's a range of emotions. I was looking at the clock and I've lost track of time. But, anyways, I was going through it and I came across a book by Suzanne Summers, who has now passed, and yes, she did pass away of cancer, but I don't want that to deter people from what I'm about to share. At any rate, her book called The Sexy Years changed my life. I remember I read it in one weekend and I cried the whole weekend because everything that she said, I was going through. And there was a time in our country's history, in the history of the world, where we where men, men could legally submit their wives to insane asylums when they went through menopause.

Kena Siu:

My God.

Jeanne Comeau:

Legally, legally, just check them in. And they did that. And a lot of women felt like they were going insane. It's a very difficult experience for a lot of women. For for me, what finally got me going was I found bioidentical hormone therapy. So it's not for everybody. Everybody do their homework. There's been controversy on it about does it cause breast cancer, does it not breast cause breast cancer? So I'm not telling anybody what to do except for to do your homework and research the European nations, not just the United States, which, by the way, the FDA is now coming out saying that bioidentical, not synthetic, bioidentical hormone therapy is beneficial to women in their aging years. And the key is to come into them within 10 years of exit of menopause, all right, for the best long-lasting effects. So yeah, I say to women, if you've never heard of it or you're afraid of it, just do your own homework and make your own decisions. Can you share? Sorry, can you share a bit about what this can't therapy does? Um sure. So bio bioidential is synthesized naturally, so it's not chemical. Okay. So it's as close to what your body would create if your body were creating it. And it there are doctors all over now that are doing this. Bioidentical. There are traditional doctors that are going to be starting to prescribe it and are prescribing it too, but they're prescribing the synthetic form of it. That's not what you want. You don't want what the insurance companies are going to pay for. Okay. And it's not too expensive considering what you're going to get, which is your life back. Your life back. You can't think uh the story is long. So you you work with a bioidentical therapy doctor. They they either through a saliva test or a blood test, they extract stuff from you, and they're able to tell you what they're going to start you on. I mean, essentially, they're going to give you estrogen and they're going to give you testosterone, and they're going to give you progesterone, they're going to give you all three, and they're going to give it in enough dose, just enough dose, to relieve the symptoms to get your life back on track. So the woman who said to you, the women who say, I don't know who I am anymore. Well, no, because you can't think straight. You can't think straight. And you've lost all sense. You know, another thing that happens when these hormones start to leave us, we start to feel old. You know, it it all happens. And I'm not just talking about how you look, but you feel it. There's a real depression that sets in. And by the way, when the husbands could no longer lock the women up, and you know, the women's revolution came along in the 60s and the 70s, birth control came about. And what was birth control? Birth control started giving women synthetic hormones, you know. So birth control, synthetic hormones, you know, that's that's questionable, right? But then again, working with the hormones and big pharma making money, they came up with supplementation for women in menopause. And so there were these different types of prescriptions. I can't recall their names now. And women were starting to thrive. You know, that this was really helping the women in the in the 60s and the 70s, you know, the in the 80s. They were thriving. And then along in 2002, I'll never forget that year, came something called the Women's Health Initiative. This study, which is now, and even the FDA put out a report on this, had false evidence. I mean, it was a bad, it was a bad study all around, all around bad study. But what it did was that it put the fear into big pharma, who stopped prescribing it, who took the women off of it. Why? Yes, cancers were coming and heart disease was coming. Was it the synthetic hormones? Uh, likely, yes. It was the synthetic, is it the bioidentical? No. So I got off on a tangent a little bit because I'm very passionate about it because it drives me crazy that women have to suffer this way. And by the way, Alzheimer's, all right, losing your mind. Heart disease is very prevalent with women. And so bioidentical hormone therapy. How do you take it then? Okay, so you go to the doctor, he does all of this. There are many ways that they can prescribe it. They can put it in a cream that you rub in your skin once, twice a day. They can put it in a sublingual tablet that you put under your tongue. Some doctors put pellets in in your in your back butt, you know, and they dissolve slowly. There are many ways for this. Oh, okay. For this to come into your body. I I will tell you that now with the FDA on board and whatever's happening in Washington, I don't, I don't go there, you're going to see more and more of it. And so keep your ears open for it. You know, look look for a doctor. If you're really, really suffering, you don't have to, is my message. Your your regular doctor, if you go to talk to your regular doctor about how you're feeling. I'm depressed. I mean, a lot of a lot of menopausal women are depressed a lot. Well, you're losing your hormones. Okay. Even even Suzanne Summers wrote about that. I I was even, I was some doctor, I'll never forget her. She wanted to give me Prozac. I said, I'm not taking Prozac. Oh my God. You know, because I couldn't think. I I just couldn't get my mojo going, right? Something was wrong. And but a regular doctor is less and less now, but you know, certainly in the last 10, 15, 20 years, the regular doctors, controlled by the results of that 2002 women's initiative poor study would not have prescribed bio hormone therapy, be it synthetic or bioidentical. They they would not have prescribed it. But the bioidentical people were always coming up and had a different story. And so they they were always there. And but the regular doctor that you're going to, just your regular doctor, is gonna want to give you an antidepressant.

Kena Siu:

Okay. Well it's good to know that I I love that you are sharing this because yeah, I remember when I went to I went to my family doctor this year, and I uh I had to ask her to get you know test about my hormones. I mean, I'm I'm 47. I needed to ask her. Yes, like you suppose and and it's it's a she, so I'm like, it's why they don't consider this stuff part of you know a regular testing, it's it's so important.

Jeanne Comeau:

They don't. And so about the she, well, there's two points. There's a great book called Estrogen Matters. Estrogen matters for you and your audience. That's a great read. And the another thing is there is an organization called the Menopause Society. You should probably be checking into that given given you know, midlife butterfly. But the menopause society, and this is comprised of a lot of doctors at the helm now, and they're they're doing a lot of talks about hormone bioidentical hormone therapy. So they're getting at the lead of it. They're getting at the lead of it, and not to get too too crazy juicy about it, I guess, but I'll I'll share one thing. Another thing that happens to women is we dry up, you know, it's like the Sahara. You know, when you got a husband and he doesn't understand the dry up Sahara, if you know what I mean, right?

Kena Siu:

Yeah.

Jeanne Comeau:

And so, you know, you go to the jelly aisle at CVS, and you know, you're trying to make your husband happy. These all doctors now, all doctors now are totally open to prescribing vaginal creams. And what's the vaginal cream? Estrogen. They have proven that it never leaves that area and it doesn't cause cancer. So for women that you know, you're you're in a mater relationship and you you want to have intimacy, but it's difficult. Talk to your doctor about these these vaginal creams. And they, you know, big farmer sells them, insurance covers them, and they they don't cause cancer, and they make a big difference in that area. So all of this is is gonna come out more and more.

Kena Siu:

Yeah, yeah, I know there's been more research about that, and yeah, it's coming out more and then women also are going like, hey, hello, we are a lot of us. I mean, there's a we are having the privilege of aging, so I mean, right?

Jeanne Comeau:

Yes, it's and and you know, and as far as the aging goes, I mean, what happens a lot with the women is our bone density. This, this is a real problem, our bone density. And so the estrogen certainly helps with that, but the testosterone, and any, any, any doctor, you know, is going to give you enough to to help maintain your bone strength because that leaves our body too. And so, why why do we get hip fractures? And, you know, first of all, we teeter and fall because we're all we're off balance, because we we don't have the hormones to keep us balanced. I should have been a doctor, I should have been a doctor of that. Well, you can add it to their list still, I guess. Yeah. Wow, no, this is delightful, but I think we went over time, and but that's okay with me.

Kena Siu:

It's fine. Yeah, I'm so glad that you shared about this because it's as and what you said, it's about doing our own doing homework. Yes, our own homework and to see what can work for us because each of us we are different and different things work for different women, and it's important for us to dig in and what kind of called us more, but be well informed.

Jeanne Comeau:

Be well informed, be your own doctor because otherwise you don't have a doctor. I want to make that very clear. It's like go within, know yourself, be your own doctor. Only you can heal yourself, you and and and and universal spirit.

Kena Siu:

Yeah, I agree, because we are the only ones who knows our body. So it's important to see if we're trying different things to see, okay, this is working, this is not working, this feels this way, this feels that way, and then from there really decide what we want to preserve our own health. Because, yeah, agreed. We are our own doctors.

Jeanne Comeau:

We are our own doctors, and there are solutions out there. We we don't have to go down, we don't have to age out.

Kena Siu:

Oh no, very no.

Jeanne Comeau:

Oh, there's so much to enjoy. There's too much. There's too much. We just we just, you know, I well, we were talking too that the great, there are many great things about midlife, but one of the great things is, you know, when when you no longer get your cycle, when the monthly thing starts happening, stops happening. What freedom? It's freedom from the emotional roller coaster. And it's like it's like uh, you know, when you you you take an airplane ride and finally your ears pop. Yes, it's like that in life. Wow, oh the cloud, the cloud is lifted. Wow, I am a strong, dynamic being. Love that. It's true. Wow. That's true.

Kena Siu:

Oh, Jean has been such a pleasure talking to you. I love your energy, your light, your wisdom. Can you share with our audience where they can find you?

Jeanne Comeau:

Yes, please. Thank you.com. And that that's the best way to find me. I'm out on YouTube too, but geniecomo.com. If anyone is interested in discovering what's possible, no commitment of anything, sign up for a discovery call, complimentary discovery call. I love meeting people, I love talking to people. Anyone want to talk about hormones? I'm always happy to talk about hormones. Anything you want to talk about, send me any questions on the contact me form. And if you're interested in knowing your soul's blueprint, please check out my Know Your Stars page on my website, geniecamo.com.

Kena Siu:

Thank you, Jeannie. I'll be sharing the link in the show notes. And before we go, I would like to know how would you call these midlife chapters that you are in at this moment.

Jeanne Comeau:

The midlife chapter that I'm in at this moment. Well, I'm beyond midlife, which is interesting, just a little bit. And oh, it's a great question. I mean, I I hesitate because I just find that who I was is so distant. It's the only way I can say it. It's so distant. And who I am now and who I am becoming is very different, and I could have never seen that coming. Never.

Kena Siu:

Thank you for sharing that because that's so wonderful. It's there is some women I've heard conversations that they feel stuck, that they are aging, that they are at the end of life when I do believe that this is the best chapter of life, itself midlife, which is several years, and just you know, and yeah, it's that keeping that explorations, exploration about again, know that itself. So I think that's the the the mode of the engine that keeps us going and exploring and knowing and enjoying and having that curiosity for life again and again.

Jeanne Comeau:

Yes, and but I but I must add, because I had been through it in the perimenopause stage, for many women find themselves, they just can't get the mojo, you know, they they just can't snap out of it. So there's a physical thing happening here. Find the courage to get the answers and start to resolve that. The answers, and I will say it again, are not in the antidepressants. Right. And I'm sorry, I probably many have many have benefited from them. It's just my personal opinion that it won't keep the light shining in the long run.

Kena Siu:

Yeah. And what's the pleasure do you enjoy the most? Researching.

Jeanne Comeau:

You know, I I I have a lot of Virgo in my charts. So, you know, I I I love I love to research things and a lot of health things and a lot of uh spiritual things, and just research is is my biggest pleasure, and I delight in every new day. I love getting up early for the new day. So that's very important.

Kena Siu:

Well, Jeannie, thank you so much for being here. It has been really, really a precious talking to you.

Jeanne Comeau:

Same here, same here. Thank you to all your guests for listening into us, and God bless. I I wish for all the light that you feel in your heart that it comes through you to those around you because that's what it's meant to do.

Kena Siu:

Yes.

Jeanne Comeau:

Thank you.

Kena Siu:

Thank you for tuning in to Midlife Butterfly. I hope this episode empowers you in some way. Share the love by hitting follow whatever you're listening and leave a review if you feel inspired. I also love to connect with you. Come say hi on Instagram at MidlifeButterfly. I love to know you. Until next time, keep spreading those wings and live, enjoy, growth, and pleasure.

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